Havin’ A Whinge

33: Australia*

Crikey

* This entry was edited and posted after my return to America.

G’day from the home of vegemite and road-ragin’ ‘roos, Ernie and Hads! The land down undah – Australia! Aussieland! OZZZZ! Well, I’ve got a new name for it, ya mongrels, and that name is, well, meh.

That’s right. Meh.

Now don’t get me wrong, ya *****. Under different ‘stancies, some ace plannin’, a few more lobstahs in me purse, and maybe a legless rootrat or two, I imagine the land of crocs and barbies would be worth a frothy piss-up with some of me closest brucies. But this visit? Well, if I’m being dinkum, mates, this visit left me feelin’ like I got a stingah t’me goolies.

Eesh, okay, sorry about that, guys. Normal English is hard enough for the two of you, never mind when it’s turned into incessantly annoying slang. Also, it was amusing for the first 10 minutes of Crocodile Dundee – in 1986 – but by the 11th minute it felt as forced as a five-foot-nothin’, 135-lb Australian waif with leathery progeria playing a romantic lead who takes over the mean streets of New York. And yet, for me, Paul Hogan might still be the most likable thing about the continent.

To be fair, some of this was my fault. I did arrive in Cairns without much of a plan beyond three bucket-list destinations: The Great Barrier Reef, Uluru-Kata, and Sydney. I’d already been to over 25 countries on this journey alone, and had been able to get around pretty well on the fly. But Australia proved to be a different animal, guys. It’s enormous, for one, and getting around ain’t easy. In fact, on a backpacker’s budget and limited time, it’s next to impossible without a helluva lot of advance planning.

To begin with, Cairns is a crazy expensive seaside tourist town where breakfast alone costs more than my private, two-story, waterfront villa in Amed, Indonesia. It’s a place where even clown car rentals cost $150 per day. A place where I walked three-and-a-half miles from the airport with backpacks on because I couldn’t justify a $25 cab for such a short ride. Of course, had I known I’d spend the next 10 hours walking those streets in the scorching sun, unsuccessfully trying to find an available room in its many hostels, homestays, inns, and motels, I would have ponied up. The only available rooms I could find were in hotels, but they began at four hundred bucks a night.

To add to my woes, I hadn’t eaten a thing since dinner on Seminyak Beach in Bali the night before, and since JetStart Airlines doesn’t allow passengers to board even with bottled water bought in the terminal, I was dehydrated by the time our wheels touched terra firma.

In other words, the recipe for disaster was coming along just fine.

By lunch, I’d exhausted myself to the point of nausea, and despite my hunger (there don’t seem to be any sandwich joints in Cairns), I couldn’t even stomach the thought of eating anything that smelled remotely like actual food. In fact, at the Cairns Mall, where I’d gone for the air conditioning, a SIM card, and to power my phone, the only thing that kept me from going into the mens room to vomit was my sympathy for the janitor who’d walked in just seconds before. Sure, cleaning public bathrooms is the poor bastard’s job, but it seemed like puking while he was standing at the sink, staring into the abyss of his own reflection and wondering where it all went wrong, might have been enough to crush his very soul.

While I would manage to force down a protein shake, it would be 6PM before I’d find a room – a $41 bed in a four-person, ensuite dorm at Gilligan’s Hostel, a huge and legendary party place. I’d tried them earlier in the day and was scouting their hedges as a possible bed for the night when I discovered they’d had a last minute cancellation. I’ve never been so deliriously happy to share a small room with three complete strangers – young Louis from New Zealand, young Susie from the UK, and Big Frank from Tonga, age indeterminate. Concerned my roomies would think I had Covid instead of a simple case of life-threatening heat exhaustion, dangerously low blood sugar, and severe dehydration, I discovered I had a hidden talent I call the stealth vomit (DM me for deets), the sound of which is exactly opposite of the one Ernie makes when coughing up a half-digested field mouse at 2AM.

Not your (unwashed) father’s hostel, Gilligan’s is one of the top party destinations in all of Cairns for kids half my age.

Sure, I would check my bucket-list box on the Great Barrier Reef, but at the risk of sounding like an entitled, spoiled little tool, I paid $125 for a two-hour boat ride with forty-nine other folks to snorkel reefs that were pretty similar to those I’d reached from the beach in front of my villas in Amed and Gili Air. Those only cost three bucks a day for mask and snorkel, and I could walk in and out of the water at my leisure and have a cold Bintang in my hand in less than a minute. The reefs of Indonesia aren’t nearly as big, that’s true, nor are the fish, but they were just as colorful and plentiful, with more turtles to boot. If I’d never been to Indonesia, then sure, the Great Barrier Reef would have been the bomb, and it was still pretty goddamn cool, but so far, it wasn’t making me forget Katja, Bianca, Fari, and Adrian in Indo. But then, I still had Uluru-Kata.

Or did I?

Heading to the outer banks of the Great Barrier Reef, when Australia still held hope.
“The sea was angry that day, my friends – like an old man trying to send back soup in a deli.” 
– George Louis Costanza
As much as the spoiled curmudgeon in me enjoyed shrugging off the GBR, I saw countless Maori Wrasse, Clownfish, Striped Sweetlips, Angelfish, Parrotfish, Green Turtles, and more, and checking that bucketlist box was absolutely worthy of a Great Northern toast. Things might be looking up!

I’d soon discover that getting to Uluru-Kata in central Australia wasn’t going to be easy, however. One-way flights from Cairns were $400+. Driving would take 29 hours – which to me seemed like a fun adventure in itself – but there were no cars available, even if rentals had been within my budget. Buses weren’t going there, and hitchhiking in Queensland is illegal, or at least it’s posted as such. I was less concerned about the popo than I was being stuck somewhere in the middle of the outback with the sun setting and the dingos downwind. I tried online rideshare apps, Facebook travel groups, and even walked to the nearby hostels all over again, checking and adding to their message boards, offering to share expenses for a spare seat. This was as close as I’d come…

I would soon discover that even if I could get there, the only rooms near Uluru-Kata were well over $300 a night. I had no gear for the campgrounds – no sleeping bag, and no tent, the latter of which is essential in a country filled with crocs, cattle-eating snakes, and spiders whose gross, furry black bodies could blot out the morning sun if they crawled atop my sleeping face to lay their eggs (I’m no Arachnologist, but I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what they do). I’d begun to sour, with the lure of Uluru-Kata quickly deteriorating from an intriguing UNESCO World Heritage Site to nothing more than Australia’s version of a land-based iceberg. In other words, a fucking rock.

I had limited options even for local enjoyment. Getting to the nearby hills for hiking required a rental car or taxi, and a later roommate, Kevin, from France, found the local trails to be more concrete than dirt. Truth be told, by then I was so resigned to my fate that I was having more trouble with the fact that I’d just met a Frenchman from Paris named “Kevin.”

Kevin? It doesn’t exactly conjure poetic verses from the musical, Les Miserables

“And so Javert you see it’s true, this man bears no more guilt than youuuuu. Who am I? Who am I? I am Keviiinnnnnnn.”

At the nearby beach, crocodile warning signs pushed all the sun worshippers back to the grassy park, where grabbing a spot to casually eye the bikini-clad European girls lying about seemed decidedly more creepy than doing so on a sandy beach. On the other hand, the local brewery – Hemingway’s – held some promise…

…until I discovered they were out of IPA, XPA, most of their lagers, and their large tee-shirts.

“Jesus H. Christ,” I suddenly heard Dad’s voice say inside my head.

And that meant only one thing – it was time to cut my losses and head for Sydney.

At the risk of sounding like a whiny little wallaby, things didn’t get a whole helluva lot better, guys. While the sun blazed in Cairns, Sydney was in the cold, wet grasp of a La Niña winter. They’d had something like, I don’t know, 500 straight days of rain, which is admittedly a rough estimate, but one with which I’m sure most Sydneyans would agree. Cold, gray, wet, and raw – and by now I was not only in full curmudgeon mode, I also had nothing but clothes for the sunny blue skies of Bali.

Ohh, Bali, can you ever forgive me for walking out on you?

I mean, sure, it’s kind of cool looking, but I came all this way for this?

I’d see the Opera House, The Sydney Bridge, St. Mary’s Cathedral, a couple of museums. I’d have a happy hour pint or two at Harry’s Bar in Surry Hills, and on Saturday afternoon I’d walk the historic Rocks neighborhood, watch singers entertaining outdoor diners at restaurants I couldn’t afford, and eventually find the packed Fortune of War, Sydney’s oldest pub, with live music and tipsy locals singing along to Piano Man and Bohemian Rhapsody.

The Sydney Harbour Bridge was open to tourists to walk across its arches, something that most certainly piqued my interest…
…until I saw the discounted price tag – $225 for a 3-1/2 hour trek – on a damp and raw winter’s day.
“I think I’ll have a beer instead. Hell, I just saved $225 – make it two.”
Didn’t we meet in Rome?
Yours truly with Gaffney The Gunman outside the Justice and Police Museum, one of the cooler places I’d visit. Dad would have loved it. Gaffney The Gunman met his demise when he stormed the home of rival gangster, Big Jim Devine. The Gunman was great with a pistol, but Big Jim was a crack shot with a rifle, and GTG was no more.
St. Mary’s Cathedral.
I’ll never be mistaken for a man of the church, but Dad was, and as such I made sure he had candles, incense, and other offerings in his honor in dozens of churches, cathedrals, mosques, and temples from Iceland to Australia. The top candle is his.
This is why no one takes you seriously, Australia. Two thirds of the animals displayed in the Sydney Museum look like they were rejected by George Lucas, the least of which being the poor man’s Jar Jar Binks in the middle. Hell, even the T-Rex, arguably the baddest dino in any museum collection, was presented as an autopsy display for some weird reason.
I was at least able to enjoy some western style food for the first time in many months, and even the every-day roasted chicken with mashed potatoes and gravy tasted Michelin-worthy.
And the passive-aggressiveness of their public signage was refreshingly amusing.
The Fortune of War, Sydney’s oldest pub, in The Rocks neighborhood.
A tourist spot for sure, but it was my kind of tourist spot.
After months drinking the likes of Serengeti, Mosi, Castel, Kingfisher, Tiger, Angkor, Leo, Chang, and Bintang, I’m not embarrassed to say I asked the woman sitting next to me, Fiona, to save my seat as I walked outside, a bit verklempt, to dab the tears of joy from my eyes.
“Excuse me, Barkeep…is…is this…Heaven?”

One of the highlights in Sydney was a roommate in my even smaller, four-bed, $50 per night dorm at Wake Up! hostel. David was closer to my age, while our other two roommates came and went and slept as you’d expect from twenty-somethings on holiday.

David Antony Gerard was staying and working at the hostel while awaiting his new apartment to become available, and he didn’t hesitate to share stories and drop names. He grew up a child of The Brethren, a cult in which men cannot wear ties and women cannot cut their hair, to name just a couple of their less-creepy rules. He escaped its grasp in his mid-teens and set off on his own. His brother and father would be ex-communicated from the cult, his late-teens brother for cavorting with women before marriage, his dad for being caught innocently socializing after work with non-Brethren coworkers from his dental practice. The marriage of his parents disintegrated when mother and father were forced to live separately in their own home. Drugs and alcohol and depression would ravage each of them before their time, leaving only David today.

“Each death led to the next broken heart,” he told me.

A highly educated intellectual, David said he was a classmate and social acquaintance of Hugh Grant at Oxford. He tutored children of The Royal Family, and did work with the grandmother of Helena Bonham Carter, befriending Helena in the process. He was friends with Jackie and Joan Collins when he lived in L.A., and also Chelsea Clinton, not to mention his connections to The Pope and the Archbishop of the Russian Orthodox Church, to namedrop just a few. He’d recently gone back to school to study film, and his 4-month class project, Alessandra, had won awards. He would ask me to critique two different, edited versions of the film. David talked enough to make me feel like a mute, which for any who know me, is saying something. But the conversations were fascinating, his life autobiography-worthy.

And this brings me to the Australian people themselves, their pace of life, and the forebodings of my impending return home to America.

I’d admittedly gotten used to a much slower life pace, having spent a few months in Africa, where time is measured by sunrise and sunset, and in Southeast Asia, where every question became a genuinely kind conversation. The priorities of those I met had changed as well, beginning somewhere around Slovenia, where farms and cattle and mountain trails dominated the stunning Lake Bohinj landscape, where one café, which doubled as a bar, was more than enough. Where my AirBnB hostess of maybe 80 years welcomed me with homemade cookies, fresh eggs, and a shot of booze. Europe is very western, sure, but they take their personal and vacation time seriously. The Italians are a bit crazed, but about love and family and wine and food and singing aloud in public. Lunches and dinners in Greece took all the time they needed, far more than for the eating itself, the delicious food simply a reason to spend more time with family and friends. In Turkey, the hotel manager gave me his personal cell number and told me to call him if I had any difficulty anywhere in his country. In Jordan, Mohammed, the owner of the hotel in which I stayed, left it in the hands of his young daughters for an entire day in order to drive me 90 minutes, one way, joining me for a tour of the red sand desert of Wadi Rum. No charge. Nothing in return. Just conversation, tea, and stories of his life as a military officer, husband, father, and devout Muslim, the tenets of which were on full display when he cooked the most amazing meal for me and a family from Italy so we wouldn’t feel so far from our loved ones on Christmas Day. In Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand, and Indonesia, the only social competitiveness was in seeing who could get in the last bowed thank you.

But things changed abruptly in Australia, and I was entirely unprepared.

I’d arrived early on a Sunday, and on my walk to town at 7AM was taken aback to see a woman whiz by in a matching spandex jogging suit, pushing a $1000 stroller. It suddenly seemed absurd. Unless you’re a pro, form-fitting spandex is little more than a fashionable luxury (I know, I know, cue all you defenders with your lists of why those outfits are so much more than that, blah blah pffft). I’d also gotten so used to seeing infants being carried around in little more than a kanga, that a luxurious stroller with four-wheel independent suspension seemed otherworldly. Sure, kangas don’t come with a cooling cushioned mattress made of the same material NASA astronauts use to help them sleep comfortably in a tin can floating in space, no, but they do keep babies close to their mother’s skin, her warmth, her heartbeat. I don’t think I saw a single stroller in Africa, Thailand, or Indonesia, as a matter of fact. But you know what else I didn’t see? A single kid with peanut allergies or ADHD.

The majority of automobiles here were shiny pickups and SUVs, decked out to survive the outback should their drivers take a wrong turn on the way to brunch or the mall. Even on a Sunday morning, cars flew down the streets, racing to somewhere that was anywhere but where they were at that very moment. Whenever I dared jaywalk an otherwise empty intersection, lone, distant drivers would step on the gas to make sure they closed what had been a comfortably safe gap. Making me pick up my pace for those last few steps would certainly show me who’s boss, I supposed.

The people weren’t unkind, no, but they weren’t exactly kind, either. And I wasn’t the only one who noticed. Sure, they answered my questions – Is there a message board in this hostel? Do you know where a hobo can get a sandwich? What the fuck is a wallaby?

But the answers were short, the people curt. “There, mate,” someone might say, motioning with a head-nod before turning and walking away. Small-talk with a decidedly unbusy bartender was met with a disinterested glance, a plunked down pint, and a turned back more than once. An inquiry about whether a hostel had rideshare postings was met with a simple “no” more than once as well, without a why, without further inquiry. I held a door for an older woman at a market and she turned and said “Thank you, there aren’t a lot of people who do that anymore.” Her words were kind, but disheartening.

Not all of my interactions were bad, to be fair. Upon leaving Cairns, my uber driver, Grant, after hearing about my travels over the prior many months, refused to take my tip.

“Buy yourself a beer, mate,” he said.

But Grant was in the minority. I realized that I’d been spoiled for some time, of course. In Thailand, if I asked where I could get some lunch, a man might walk out from behind his own counter and walk me down the street to a local restaurant before we engaged in a contest to see who could be the last to bow our thanks to one another. This sort of kindness also wasn’t uncommon in many of the other countries I’d visited.

But was that being spoiled, or is that the way it’s supposed to be? It’s not that hard, after all. It takes such little effort. And everyone is happier at the end of such an exchange.

It was then that I realized Australia reminded me very much of another country. My own. America, where people are polite enough, but not always so nice – and too often, neither – especially when it costs their time, in a place where we’re all taught that time is money.

Money. Career. Real life. It was all suddenly looming.

I sat next to two women on the boat out to the Great Barrier Reef. Their conversations began as most do, talking about their careers, both painting glorious pictures of their titles and responsibilities, the amazing things their companies do in their respective industries. But with two hours out, and two more back, their conversation inevitably turned to truths. Their poor life-work balance, the pressures of attending conventions and board meetings and preparing budgets and giving presentations, tales of incompetent leadership, bloated management, looming cuts to staffing and resources, and how they knew goddamn well how to fix the problems their leadership didn’t, while also knowing they’d just be banging their heads against figurative walls if ever given the chance.

It’s all bullshit. A glorious sham. They know it. I know it. You know it. Life is about more than that, isn’t it? It’s about what I’ve experienced in the past year, the places I’ve been, the things I’ve seen, and the people I’ve met. People with nothing, who don’t hesitate to give what little they have, be it food and shelter, or time and kindness.

It was here, in Australia, guys, that the reality of abnormal life once again began to loom large. I miss the two of you, Mom, family and friends, but I suddenly don’t think I want to go back. I don’t want all of this to become little more than framed memories of a single year from my life. I want this to be my life. Well, not this, not Australia, because if I’m being dinkum, mates, Australia was just kind of meh.

As my journey begins to wind down – only one more country to go – I came across a new release in the airport by the modern world’s greatest bard, his words reflecting my own hopes for how you, my dear, dedicated readers, have enjoyed keeping up with my journey…

“Hopefully, it’s medicine that tastes good, a couple of aspirin instead of the infirmary, a spaceship to Mars without needing your pilot’s license, going to church without having to be born again and laughing through the tears…my sights and seens, felts and figured outs, cools and shamefuls. Graces, truths and beauties of brutality. Getting away withs, getting caughts and getting wets while trying to dance between the raindrops.”

God Bless you, Matthew David McConaughey, you beautiful genius. Now go, and get out of my head.
I swear this picture was clear when I took it, but then, at one time, Matthew McConaughey thought the same about the words on his book jacket. Until next time, Cheers, mates.

Paradise Found

32: Indonesia

Clockwise from Top Left: Me, Fari, Adrian, Bianca, and Katja, at our villa in Nusa Dua.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl

I was beginning to lose faith, if I’m being honest. I’d started in the beach party town of Seminyak, then drove north to Ubud, famed for its laid back yoga vibe, its Sacred Monkey Forest, its destination rice terraces. I’d continued on to the mountains of Kintamani, with hopes of watching sunrise from atop Mount Batur. I hadn’t even planned on going to Amed, the reviews of which had been somewhat underwhelming. But there I found myself, searching for respite from the crowds, the cars, the locals starved for tourist dollars – searching for that still-elusive paradise in beautiful Bali.

“I need the biggest, baddest-ass ride you got,” I said, slapping a wad of rupiah on the counter.

“You mean scooter?” the man asked, looking a little confused.

“Potato-potato, my friend,” I replied, coolly.

“We only have scooter here.”


“Ugh, yes, fine, I would like to rent a scooter please.”


I would ride Black Lightning from Seminyak to Ubud to Kintamani to Amed to Padangbai and back to Seminyak over the course of the next three weeks.
Macaque monkeys in Ubud’s Sacred Monkey Forest and the nearby Sangeh Monkey Forest. Cool and fun experiences but I couldn’t shake the feeling of an impending clash – too many monkeys, too many tourists, I would feel hesitance – and later regret – for having participated in what I expect will soon be a problem that can no longer be ignored for Bali and its Macaques, the latter of which (woman with monkey firmly attached to her head aside) will surely pay the price for human encroachment. I resisted a guide’s offer to walk me around Sangeh. He followed me for some time, anyway, and I would later realize it wasn’t simply for his benefit…watch here.
At the sacred Pura Tirta Empul, where the springs are believed to have been created by the God Indra, and from which flow blessed waters that will purify those who bathe there. As you can see, I bathed there. My slate is clean. I’m as innocent as the day I was born. So the rest of you can suck it.

Photo: Wayan Tarka
Batur Lake, Northern Bali. I came here to watch the sunrise atop Mount Batur. But then I learned that even if you’re able to run the gauntlet of local guides who will insist that 1) it’s illegal to climb it alone (it’s not) and 2) if you do, you risk death (you don’t, I mean, not beyond takin’ a heart attack or going backwards over a cliff while taking a selfie), I’d be watching the sunrise in an intimate setting of 250-300 other hikers (this, unfortunately, was true). Ahhhhhhhh no thank you. I would instead enjoy an evening in my private outdoor hot-spring-fed hot tub, and then cross the mountain roads first thing in the morning on Black Lighting… bound for Amed.

Even Amed got off to a sideways start, my first room too close to the only road in this beachfront town, with locals racing by at all hours on scooters and motorbikes powered largely by loud, two-stroke engines. At my wit’s end, the next morning I would check into Lily’s Beach Bungalow, a little villa I’d noticed the night before when dodging a trio flying by on the unlit road. Lily’s, it turns out, was a little oasis between Ketut Natih Road and the Bali Sea, flowering gardens and mango trees inside its quaint walls. I would have a second floor, two-story bungalow with a private patio and sea views. At home, a place like this would cost me a grand per night. Here? Just nineteen dollars. But even without the price, Lily’s opened the door to the Indonesian paradise for which I’d been looking – and that was even before Katja walked in.

The second floor loft of my bungalow, perfect for a little writing with a coffee or glass of wine…

She was bone thin, loaded down with a pack that looked heavier than she, and she spoke with an Austrian accent – Vienna to be exact. We wouldn’t exchange hellos just then, but I already knew we’d be seeing more of one another. After so many months meeting travelers along the way, it almost becomes a sixth sense. Within twenty-four hours, and with surprisingly little fanfare, it was not only a forgone conclusion that we would be spending the next several days exploring Amed together, we would rarely be apart over the coming three weeks.

To be clear, this wasn’t a romance, despite the many people we met assuming we were a couple, husband and wife. As beautiful as she is, and as devastatingly handsome as I’m told I am by so many people who definitely aren’t also my Mom, this was about being kindred spirits. The same energy and taste for adventure, food, movies, and more. I would discover that Austrians and I have a similar temperament. But most wonderfully, she understood my humor – even when wrapped in my curmudgeonly sarcasm – and I hers. When she agreed with a laugh to see who could come up with the most absurd answer the oft-asked question of how we’d met, I knew it was kismet.

It wouldn’t be long before our twosome expanded. Adrian’s addition had an inauspicious beginning, we finding him somewhat lost and exhausted after navigating a treacherous “shortcut” on his scooter that both Katja and I had also just barely survived unscathed. A short time later I would lead both of them along a dark mountain road and inadvertently through the largest pothole in all of Bali at around 50 kilometers per hour. I would make it through, as would Katja. Adrian wouldn’t be so lucky, but his laugh-screaming through the pain as a doctor treated his injuries at a roadside medical clinic – while asking us if we thought Lily’s might have an available bungalow for him – pretty much sealed the deal on his addition to our duo.

The three of us would run into Fari and Keena atop Lahangan Sweet mountaintop a few days later as we watched gale-blown clouds repeatedly cover-and-reveal the sunset-silhouetted top of nearby Mount Agung. Katja and I had exchanged passing hellos with them while watching a local reggae band a few nights earlier, and she would happen upon them again in the coming days. Together, she and I would follow them to the island of Gili Air. Adrian was getting dive certified in Amed, delayed a few days to give his cuts and scrapes time to heal, but it wouldn’t be the last we’d see of the always smiling young man who’d become our “adopted son” in the ever-more-absurd stories of how we’d met.

It was in Gili Air that we would meet the bubbly, charismatic Bianca, while she and I stood watching three islanders trying to coax a white horse off of a colorfully painted boat with the Bali Sea and Mount Rinjani in the background. Ten minutes later Bianca was joining us for morning coffee, and from then on, we too were inseparable.

After Gili Air, Keena’s time in Indonesia would come to an end, and she would return to Germany ahead of Fari, who would round out our family of five. Fari’s amazing story, incredible personal strength, and hunger for life’s adventures belie her humble spirit and sparkling smile.

We would watch stunning sunrises and sunsets, and sit under the stars and “Milky Street” at night, the skies so crisp and bright at times that that it felt as if we were witness to the secrets of the universe itself. We would drive treacherous mountain roads to palaces and temples and ancient villages. We would snorkel gorgeous coral reefs and wrecks teeming with fish the shapes and color of our imaginations. We would swim alongside Hawksbill and Green turtles for as long as we cared, coming ashore to sip Radlers and lunch on freshly caught tuna. In the early evenings we would watch skies ablaze in yellows and oranges and reds and purples while sipping drinks until fires took over for the resting sun. We would meet still more new friends for dinners and watch live bands and drink espresso martinis and dance to DJs until the early morning hours, and sometimes just sit in hammocks or beanbag beach chairs and let time drift slowly by. We would witness amazing, never-ending rainbows, and hike mountain forests to stunning waterfalls, and walk rice farms where we would come upon locals who would invite us to sit, eat, smoke, drink, and sing. We would surf the waves of Padang Padang and attend a Kecak Fire Dance, share million dollar villas (for a backpackers price), swim in our private pools, cook together, and every now and then treat ourselves to dinner out under a bright moon and stars.

Throughout it all we were treated like family by locals, greeted with smiles and waves and hellos as we passed, whether on foot or two wheels. And during this far too short time, we became a family, each of us forming a bond that we hope and expect will last forever.

I had an opportunity to skip my next destination and stay a little longer in Indonesia. But Adrian had left us. Then Katja. Bianca next. The night I left for the airport and said goodbye to Fari on Seminyak Beach, we’d met another traveler, a young man from the UK. That’s how it is sometimes. Friends overlap for a bit, then some move on, and we travel along with others still. Sometimes it’s easy. Sometimes it’s even welcome. But the thought of staying longer and driving along winding mountain roads and pulling over to take in some new, stunning view, without my new friends to share it with, well suddenly it didn’t seem so inviting. That hadn’t happened since Paris, the opportunity to stay on after Margot and Brooksy had returned home to the States. I decided then, as I did now, that I’d rather leave wanting more, than stay, wanting more…

My friend. My travel companion. My kindred spirit. The funny and sweet and wonderful and talented and beautiful Katja Hasenöhrl, while we traveled from Lombok Island to Padangbai in a ferry in which I was sure we would sink and die. Also pictured is some guy who succeeded in a glorious photobomb. I almost want to crop us out and find him and send him a copy, because honestly, it’s a really nice picture of him. Well done, sir (slow clap).
I cannot answer any questions you might have about this photo. Honestly. I don’t know.
Our resident wavepro took us all surfing at Padang Padang, famed not just for its tasty waves and the fact that Kelly Slater now mentions my name in casual conversation, but also for its star-turn with Julia Roberts in Eat Pray Love.
The endlessly joyful and energetic and hilarious and beautiful Bianca Afonso, a South Africa-born, Vietnam resident – and one of my Bali wives (Surprise, Mom!), pictured here at the cliffs of Uluwatu Temple, enjoying the sunset while we await the Kecak Fire Dance.
A little vino at our Uluwatu villa.
This. This is Bianca. 24/7.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl

Yours truly with one of the bravest and most beautiful women I’ve ever met, Fari “Butterfly” Abbasi, who became a refugee at the age of 11 when she emigrated to Germany with her parents, forced to leave everything and everyone she’d ever known and start over in a completely foreign land. All parents worry a bit when their “kids” travel the world alone, but I wonder how they’d feel knowing that this is Fari driving me around Nusa Dua on a scooter, because just three days before this she’d not only never driven a scooter, she’d never driven any motorized vehicle at all (Look Mama Abbasi, there’s video!). The last I heard from the third of my wives (Surprise, Mom!) was just today, from Phi Phi Island in Thailand, where she is still traveling alone, having dinner later with a couple she’d met only hours before, while telling me she hoped to leave her full-time job and pursue a career as a digital nomad – while at the same time saying she wished she were brave. My lord.
No caption needed, the expression says it all.

Photo: Bianca Afonso
Two minutes in and she’s already cocky.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
Our boy, the always smiling, always laughing, always kind and wonderful – and apparently very pain-tolerant – Adrian Eiberger, also from Germany, seen here feeding the Koi at Tirta Gangga Palace – because that’s exactly the kind of person Adrian is.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
This, a mere two hours after being launched from his scooter by a pothole at 50KPH and having his hand, arm, elbow, thigh, knee, and calf, painfully cleaned and patched at a roadside clinic.
Our boy just ain’t right.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
Right back on the horse.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
Terraced rice paddies on the road to Sangeh.
The day we met Adrian, Katja and I would ride out to Tenganan Pegeringsingan Village, stopping along the way, as we often would, to take in the scenery. In this instance, it was fields of rice paddies, piles of coconut shells, and women sitting beneath a tarp roof kerneling corn, that caught our eye. A single dirt path cut through the fields, so we decided to follow it as far as allowed. A short time later, we heard music coming from the far side of the fields, and soon we came upon a covered veranda with a group of men sitting in a semi-circle, an old stereo with receivers and speakers, singing traditional songs to karaoke instrumentals. Without hesitation, they asked us to join, share their food, cigarettes, homemade Arak poured from a jug we at home might use for gasoline (I deferred to Katja on this, assuming it would be the last I would see of her for several days), and to take a turn at the mic. Once again, I deferred, not wanting to make them feel bad for their comparatively lesser talents, but Katja didn’t care about their feelings as she brought down the house with her rendition of Neil Young’s Rockin’ In The Free World. Wife, daughters, and neighbors would stop by, and Katja and I would leave with bags full of homemade snacks and an invitation to return anytime.
Solo fisherman coming in from a night at sea in front of Lily’s, as they did each morning while I typed away and enjoyed some freshly brewed coffee.
Katja, me, and Adrian enjoying a little live music in Amed. The bands here were largely made up of the same guys, just switching up a couple musicians from night to night, bar to bar. Later we would sit on the beach in front of Lily’s and stare at a sky full of stars and, as it would be known from that night onward, “Milky Street.”
Mount Agung.
Katja, Adrian, and I catching glimpses of sunset silhouetting Mount Agung atop Lahangan Sweet.
Bianca, Feng, Lisa, me, and Katja, just after snorkeling with Hawksbill turtles (yet again…yawn) in front of our lodge in Gili Air. We’d met Feng and Lisa on a snorkeling trip (they met during a free diving course), and would get together with them for dinners, drinks, dancing, and more fun under the Bali Sea.

Join me for a bike ride through town.
Kecak Fire Dance at Uluwatu Temple. Video.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
During the celebration of Galungan, locals erect Penjor – tall decorative bamboo poles – in front of their homes and businesses as an expression of thanks for the Earth’s bounties.
Waeni’s Sunset View in Amed.
A view of Mount Agung from the beach in front of Lily’s as the sun rises behind me. If you can see the head above water, that guy swam each morning as the sun rose over the horizon. What a wonderful way to start your day…
…but my lord, there were so many beautiful sunrises and sunsets.
A woman working the Tegallalang Rice Terrace, north of Ubud.
Along the coastal road to Batu Manak Lighthouse. Katja and I drove this road several times, to snorkel the “Japanese Wreck,” visit the lighthouse, watch sunsets, and people watch in the villages through which we passed.
Along the road in Amed.
In a culvert leading to the sea in Amed, these kids played all morning putting together pieces of broken tile like a mosaic, then were all arranged in a row by the girl in pink, and they proceeded to pretend those white pieces of tile were smartphones, making calls, sending texts, playing games…
Making Fruit Bat friends outside of Tirta Gangga Palace.
Katja and I would find thousands of Nectar Bats at Goa Lawah Temple just south of Padangbai.
Video.
I found this guy in my sleeping bag. I can’t even begin to tell you how hard it was to find a box big enough to ship him home to Mom.
Making friends at Saifana Organic Farmstay on the island of Lombok.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
Horses on Gili Air are used for riding as well as pulling taxi carts. This beauty arrived just moments before by boat, and was a little reluctant to disembark. Video.
Hiking to Sendang Gile Waterfall on the island of Lombok.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
I couldn’t decide which photo to include – like one fewer makes any difference at this point – so you get both.

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
Homemade dinner at our villa in Uluwatu. And yes, of course I helped…I’m pretty sure I chopped a vegetable. Or was it fruit? Nope nope nope it was the bread, I cut the bread and made some toast. Which reminds me, sorry for burning the toast...

Photo: Katja Hasenöhrl
I didn’t help with any of these…

Not a foodie by nature, it’s hard to pass on Indonesia’s amazingly delicious offerings.
Feng, Fari, Bianca, Katja, and me, on our last night together in Nusa Dua in Bali, under the light of a full moon. Feng would return to Seminyak after dinner. Katja would head to the airport shortly after we returned to the villa. Bianca would head for the airport the next day, and I later that evening, saying goodbye to Fari on Seminyak Beach, leaving her to enjoy Bali for another week or so with new travelers she’d meet in coming days.

I’d only just recently discovered an answer to the question of what my favorite country was so far on this adventure, and Thailand had set the bar very high – stunning landscapes and sunsets, mountains and seas, forests and coral reefs. But just a few short weeks later and I had a very clear new favorite. Part of that answer is most certainly due to the unexplored Indonesian islands I left behind. So many more places to drive and hike and swim. So many volcanoes to climb. So much wildlife still to see. I never even saw the orangutans.

But time and time again the thing that has made the most incredible places even more indelible, has been the people with whom I’ve spent time while there, the once-in-a-lifetime experiences we’ve shared together. When you find the right people along your journey, something magical happens. Julia in The Faroe Islands. Margot and Brooksy in Paris. Eric in Prague. Sophie and Peter in Kenya. Lisa and Elliott in Malawi. Poppy in Thailand. My own, truly amazing family in America, who have been present in every step I’ve taken, and for whom I am blessed so many times over. And in Indonesia, my new friends, dear friends I consider to be family.

I’ll return one day. We’ve all promised to return. Some of us are planning to get together this coming Christmas in New York, hopefully to talk about how we’ll all be back there, together again. I can only hope, because I finally found paradise, and I’m not ready to give them up just yet.

I’m fine, just a little salt water in my eyes…
Sampai kita bertemu lagi, my friends.

Thailand

31: Bangkok, Ayutthaya, Chiang Mai, Phuket, Phi Phi, Krabi

Just another Thai sunset.

Chiyo from Thailand, Ernie and Hads!

I don’t know where to begin with Thailand, guys, except to say that I promise promise promise to try to make this the shortest written entry in some time – hell, maybe ever. The fact is, if I wanted to tell you how I really feel about Thailand, it’d take two of your lives at least, maybe three of Ernie’s with those arteries of his.

As you’re both well aware from asking me week in and week out, the most difficult question to answer – for me and nearly every traveler I’ve met – has been “What is your favorite country so far?”

It’s an almost impossible question for far too many reasons to list. Or it was. Sometime around late Africa, maybe in Zambia, I finally got my first answer. And then my second. And third…and fourth. In no particular order those answers were Thailand, Thailand, Thailand, and Thailand.

It only took a week or so in this stunning country before those answers began to make a helluva lot more sense, guys. The weather, the people, the food, the welcome – not to mention the countless gorgeous sunsets, beaches, mountains, and temples.

Bangkok’s Grand Palace, Chinatown, Lumphini Park, the gritty and outrageous madness of Sukhumvit Alley, Nana’s, and the infamous “backpacker slum” known as Khao San Road. It was a lively and intriguing start, indeed!

A train would then take me to the peaceful, serene, ancient temple city of Ayutthaya, followed by the gorgeous city of Chiang Mai, a nearly perfect mix of historic, spiritual, urban, mountain, and jungle.

A $50 flight from Chiang Mai dropped me in the quaint Old Town of Phuket, its main street shops reminding me of Stonington Borough. A couple days later, a short GrabTaxi ride would drop me in the town of Karon, where the Andaman Sea meets the Malacca Straight, with that stop followed by the beachy madness of Phuket’s Bangla Road, which is possibly more Bourbon Street than Bourbon Street itself – no paddles needed for ping pong here, guys.

I would then find relief from my exhaustingly immature ways on the stunning island of Phi Phi…Well, sort of. Sure, Phi Phi is an outdoor lover’s playground by day – jungle and forest hikes, kayaking, snorkeling, and more, but by night its beaches become a fire-juggling-techno-dance-club-party-under-the-stars-and-moon.

Phi Phi was tough to leave, but I would eventually take a scenic ferry ride north to Krabi, with its own stunning beaches, bath-warm waters, lush green forests, beckoning mountain peaks, jungle trails, and great live music scene. Krabi offered something new around each and every corner.

And did I mention the food? My lord. This country is the home of Pad Thai, guys, THE. HOME. And no, Hads, that’s not all I ate. I ate everything. I ate like a champion. I ate like I was going to the electric chair. I ate, well, like Ernie. I ate a lot is what I’m saying.

And every Thai horizon – morning, noon, and night – was gorgeous and dramatic, every sunset leaving me more and more convinced that Buddha might actually be “the” one, guys, rewarding his believers with gloriously painted skies each and every evening.

But always, always making the difference between memorable and unforgettable, no matter where I’ve traveled, were the amazingly kind and welcoming and beautiful people of Thailand. Whether on a beach or boat, at a temple or on a trail, on a corner or in a café, conversation and smiles were more than casual, more than simply being polite, they were sincere and personal and full of appreciation for the moment.

But I feel like I’m forgetting something…

Oh, right, THE CATS!

When I declined the ridiculously expensive rabies inoculation in preparation for my trip, I promised Dr. Demick I wouldn’t go near any cats or dogs. I lied, Doc.

This is your Mecca, Ernie and Hads. Thailand, but especially the island of Phi Phi. Now, I know what you’re thinking, probably something like “Whoa-whoa-whoa, slow your roll there, Pops, we already live in paradise here on Lakeview Drive in Narragansett. No jobs. Free food. You fill feeders to attract birds for us to pounce and bat around. You give peanuts to squirrels so we can chase them the hell back outta the yard. You pick bloated ticks off us, and then brush us smooooth so we look good for those 2AM romantic interludes outside your bedroom window. You literally pick our poop out of the sandbox with a little plastic spoon, like some sort of indentured servant, whenever we simply don’t feel like walking our lazy asses outside. You buy us weed for god’s sake – we’re already living in Mecca, baby, WOOOOO!”

True. True. And I’d be even more appreciative if you actually uttered those words one day, but without the snark. But then, you’re cats. And even if you could, you wouldn’t. Because you’re fucking cats. And cats can be dicks sometimes.

But then, that’s on me, because I took you in. And really, when you think about it, we’re kind of the same.

Bangkok

Thailand isn’t just the land of cats – they’ve got one or two temples as well. These are just a few of the ones I saw in Bangkok alone.
Monitor Lizards live freely in Lumphini Park in Central Bangkok, though sometimes their numbers get out of hand and a few require relocation (I shipped one in a box to Grandma so she can take care of it until I can bring it home for you guys to play with. It should have arrived yesterday…shit..which reminds me that I need to tell Grandma to expect a Monitor Lizard...The lizards coexist with humans (within reason), their bite rarely fatal unless you’re super lazy and allow it to progress to infection, which is something I like to call Natural Selection. I saw a dozen or so here (and elsewhere in city ponds and streams), with at least one around seven feet in length. Komodo Dragons, a member of the monitor lizard family, can reach ten feet and 300 pounds, which means even Ernie would be little more than a snack. Watch a video of a monitor lizard coming ashore here.
A fifty-cent ferry ride got me across the Chao Phraya River to the famous Wat Arun Buddhist Temple, begun in the 1600s, added to in the 1800s, and last renovated around 2017.
The sacred Emerald Buddha, housed within the Grand Palace grounds, was created in 43BCE and has a fascinating history of blended fact and fiction. It’s believed that the safety of the entirety of Thailand depends on this icon, which is why I was surprised at how high up that thing I was able to climb before someone told me to get hell down.
Samanera monks worshipping at Wat Benchamabophit (aka The Marble Temple). At this most holy site, while I observed this most holy moment, my Tuk Tuk driver – having realized he’d be making no commission when I turned down his offer for a tour of the silk warehouse, where tailors would have been happy to make me a brand new suit – scampered off into the night like a rat, leaving me at the farthest possible point from room. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t ruin my Moment of Zen, but I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t have a touch of appreciation for his game (slow clap, you SOB).
Coming in a 150′ long is the Reclining Buddha of Wat Pho, located on grounds that not only house the largest collection of Buddha images in all of Thailand, but is also the birthplace of traditional Thai Massage. Speaking of which, my dogs were barkin’, and staring at those toes wasn’t helping…
Lady, I’ve had a long day walking from temple to bar, temple to bar, and I’m not paying you $7 for sixty minutes of foot massaging so you can watch Rong Phyābāl Thạ̀wpị, capiche?
NO REGERTS.

(relax, Ma, it’s just henna)

Ayutthaya

From Wat Mahathat and Wat Ratchaburana, which were literal steps from my wonderful Tamarind Guesthouse, to Wat Na Phra Meru Rachikaram and Wat Chaiwatthanaram in central Ayutthaya, this was a treasure trove of temples from as far back as the 14th Century, when Ayutthaya was the second capital of the Siamese Kingdom.
Not one to be left out of the latest fashion trends, I would immediately buy a knockoff outfit and wear it for the rest of my visit. I’ll wear it to The Ganny when I get home.
Wat Phra Ram.
Wat Mahathat.
Buddha Head in Tree Roots, from Wat Mahathat.
Wat Phra Si Sanphet.
Worshippers at Wat Na Phra Meru Rachikaram.
The Reclining Buddha of Wat Lokaya Sutha, believed to have been created in the early part of the 14th century (it has been reworked since), measures nearly 140′ in length, and 26′ high.
Watch gripping video here.
Fisherman and barges shared the muddied waters of the Chao Phraya River. Crossing over a bridge to see Wat Chaiwatthanaram I was able to watch some locals hook a large catfish in the heavy current. That was only half the battle – lifting the fish up was something else altogether.
Non-vegans can watch here.
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Chiang Mai

So my first night in Chiang Mai and I was walking down a side street after dark when I saw something move down by my feet. I thought, okay, maybe a cockroach?

I imagine Hadley would be fascinated until it stabbed her in the eyeball.

I was in sandals, and spent the rest of the evening walking like I was hot coals.
The Inthakin City Pillar Festival at Wat Chedi Luang is an opportunity to pay respects to all images of Buddha – and more – including the sprinkling of water on the Fon Saan Has Buddha image in return for rains for the crops. Watch video here of the music and dancing inside the walls, while outside countless locals and visitors shopped for trinkets and enjoyed local streetfood.
Inthakin Pillar Vhiara.

Sorry ladies – no women allowed (as it should be).
During the evening festival at Wat Chedi Luang, worshippers made water offerings to Buddha, which were then pullied up and sprinkled onto the temple behind me by the local monks. Watch here.
Peter in Tree Roots (along the Hoi Suthep Monk Trail). If I stand there long enough maybe I’ll be as famous as the Buddha Head – our noggins are around the same size, so I got that goin’ for me…
Wat Phra That Doi Suthep, the end goal of my hike. I would add Dad’s name to a sacred scroll here.
While revered in places like India and Thailand, elephants are still terribly mistreated. They’re used primarily for labor, but when labor crosses into tourist entertainment, that’s where human beings become part of the problem, or part of the solution. For people to ride or “bathe with” elephants, training needs to occur, and that training requires cruel punishment, not to mention an elephant being forced to bathe several times a day with hundreds of gross covidy human hands all over them.

Just stop it.
At Chang Chill, the elephants have been saved from a life of “retirement” having fancy chairs strapped to their backs so dopey tourists can pretend they’re royalty. Here, tourists aren’t allowed to touch the elephants at all, though close viewing is pretty much guaranteed. In this video, one elephant, Mae Mayura, had blocked our trail from behind, when her mother, Mae Gohge, decided to come our way – leaving us nowhere to go. The gentleman guiding Mae Gohge is her caretaker, who spends each day, all day, in her presence.
A St. Andrew’s Cross Spider brought his lunch to ours at Chang Chill Elephant Sanctuary.

Phuket

Ahh, the infamous Bangla Road. Don’t worry, Mom, your youngest and by far most favorite child is all grown up and mature now. And besides, what could possibly go wrong?

Well, more mature, anyway. And I have proof I did one or two other things as well, though for the life of me I don’t remember being at any of these places…

Chop-chop, lady, I’m paying eight bucks for this one.

Phi Phi

Shark Point at Long Beach, Phi Phi Island.
Heading for Monkey Beach…
…which reminds me, Ma, watch for a second large wooden crate, this one marked “Bananas.”
I would hike the thick forest trails for hours, get off trail, take diggers, find my way again, swim, hike back, have a beer or two, and then do it all over again the next day.
A little Thai Boxing with the additional entertainment of drunken audience members climbing into the ring to duke it out between fights. I thought about it, but then figured I’d get the one dude who is a Thai boxing weekend warrior at home who ragdolls me and ruins my night.
Phi Phi Beach came to life each night with fire jugglers, fireworks, cheap drinks, ganja from the bartenders (so I heard), and beach clubs rocking until early the wee hours.
It was a Dark and Stormy Day…
So. Ehem. Bare with me a moment…(see what I did there?)

This is not included for your (or my) cheap entertainment. This is included only as a mature, responsible, and important PSA for all of those wonderful ladies in my life…If, say, there’s the slightest chance you just might, maybe, possibly ride that new mechanical bull in your local beach bar, what I’m saying is choose your outfit carefully. And also, make sure people don’t have their phones out, because you never know who might be videotaping your drunk ass.

It’s me. The answer is me.

Video Copies: $10 each. I accept Venmo, PayPal, Zelle…
Phi Phi was one of those magical places. Jungle hiking. Beach hiking. Kayaking. Monkeys. Monitor Lizards. Swordfish. Gorgeous sunsets. Beach DJs. Fire jugglers. Thai Boxing. Incredible food, and beautiful, amazing people…
So a Toast To Phi Phi…and a toast to the sweet and beautiful Poppy.

Krabi

Krabi was sneaky gorgeous, looking a little more “urban” upon arrival, some of its beaches obscured, but walk or scoot around almost any corner…
Every single night, without fail, offered an amazing sunset, from the one that opens this post to the one above, the one below, and a dozen more…
My travel mate, Spalding.
A fifteen minute longboat ride to Railay Beach and more paradise…
Funny story…ehem…yes, those are penises…
Phra Nang Cave (Princess Cave) is tied to multiple legends, but today locals still visit to make offerings for good luck, safe seas, and as it relates to the hundreds of phallic carvings – fertility.

For the kids out there, here are some Macaque monkeys: Monkeys!
Diamond Cave, one of countless cool cave systems throughout Thailand. This one, like many, included thousands of resident bats.

But more importantly, what the hell is going on with my Adam’s Apple? It’s hypnotic…
Atop Tiger Cave Temple, 1,237 steep-ass steps, but the temple and the view were totally worth it.
There were dozens of monkeys lazing about on the steps on the walk up to the temple, so many that I had to step over or around more than a few. But it was at the bottom when something about a monkey I call “Old Pigeon Toes” didn’t look quite right, the least of my problems being that what he has is actually called “out-toed.” I’ve been calling it the wrong thing my entire life.
video
Behind Tiger Cave Temple mountain was a forest area called Wonderland. The hike here was stunning, with a huge Buddhist temple under the eaves of the mountain base, along with a series of Buddhist meditation huts, many at ground level, and a few built into the mountainside, like this one.

So, guys, it didn’t take me long to discover why Thailand was suddenly the popular backpacker answer to “Which is your favorite country?” And I’d be lying if I said it hadn’t become my answer too – for now, anyway. But with only three country’s left on this yearlong adventure before we’re all together again, it’s gonna take something pretty goddamn special to beat this water, these views, and these sunsets…

Until next time, be good, and nap well.

Cambodia

30: Phnom Penh & Siem Reap

“With our thoughts, we make the world.”

– Buddha

Well that doesn’t look right.

Buddhism. So peaceful and inviting and, on its surface, so much more appealing to me than most other religions. Their idols always have a little smile, like they’ve finally found that elusive enlightenment. Many are presented in a state of peaceful meditation – something we could all use a little more of, especially in these dark days of America’s backwards-ass re-canoodling of Church-and-State. The fat ones are most often depicted as jolly. An outdated stereotype, sure, and an admittedly heavy weight for the heavily-weighted to bear, but when it comes to problematic stereotyping, at least this one isn’t racist. A lot of the lady Buddhas are portrayed as chilled out, lying down, looking blissful. While it’s wonderful to see women in history depicted as sitting upon thrones of gold, in positions of great power, revered and worshipped, I’m willing to bet a certain percentage of the ladies out there would trade that throne for a few hours of peace and quiet, the husband out, the kids away, a comfy daybed, a spot in the sun. The only thing that could make those idols more appealing is if they were also holding a cup of froyo. If they’d done that from the start, Buddhism’s popularity would probably dwarf both Christianity and Islam put together. Then there’s Ganesh – “the remover of obstacles and bringer of good luck” – as if being an adorable little elephant wasn’t already enough.

Meanwhile, the imagery of so many other religions is a comparative bummer, a barrage of human sacrifice and death and torture and other horrible fates that await those of us who use our God-given brains to choose the “wrong” path.

But be honest, if you had no prior knowledge of any religion, and had to choose one based on idols alone, are you more likely to get on board with “Fun Bobby,” the well-fed jolly dude who looks like he just ate a weed gummy and downed a couple craft beers, or the bone-thin guy nailed to a cross, with a spear-wound in his ribcage, who’s bleeding from his head because he’s wearing the world’s least fashionable hat?

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

And that’s pretty much what I was thinking about as I began scootering the 90 minutes home from Phnom Kulen National Park to Siem Reap, along rutty, gravelly mountain roads at false dusk in the rain. The colorful fruit and vegetable stands I’d passed on the way in now sitting empty under the dark and waterlogged forest canopy. The Rangers I’d exchanged helloes with so many hours before, long gone home.

My religious contemplations were merely a diversion, however, a distraction from the primary concern at hand, that being how to handle the fact that while one of my scooter mirrors simply wouldn’t stay in a set position, slowly ticking downward every time I angled it to see the fast-approaching motos and trucks, my other mirror was sitting in the storage pocket of the scooter itself, completely disconnected, it’s lonely stick of an arm pointing toward the heavens like an NFL’er thanking God for letting him score that last touchdown.

I’d lost it on a long, empty pathway, if you can call a rocky, bouldered, dirt and puddled trail a pathway. But that’s where Rung Bror Cheav – the Bat Cave – was located. I’d gotten lost not long before, ending up in a small little village in the mountain forest, a village that seemed to exist simply for its random collection of ornate, disparate temples. A monk and two women had helped put me back on track. But Rung Bror Cheav was still 2 kilometers away, a short distance by most standards, but a long way off when you’re pretending to be Travis Pastrana in a Gazoo helmet on a bone-rattling, bottoming-out scooter with the afternoon getting a bit long in the tooth.

I’d actually made the responsible choice at the time, having done the math and deciding it was best to turn back. I had no spare tire, no tools, and no cell coverage should something go wrong on this remote, empty, and unforgiving mountain trail. I could make it back to the village on foot and spend the night with the monk and women, I supposed, which would have made for a much more interesting entry than this, but I still wanted to see The Thousand Lingas and swim under the Kulen Waterfall.

And then, in an instant of adult self-sabotage – one of the stories of my life – I decided it would be funny to send my brothers – Steven and Jon – and our famous author friend, Jeff Hull (Pale Morning Done, Broken Field, and the soon-to-be summer blockbuster movie based on the soon-to-be NYTimes best selling novel, The Incredible Adventures of Pud), a video of that kooky trail. While I rode down it. Throttling and braking with one hand. Filming with the other.

It didn’t go as planned, but it did go exactly as expected (watch?).

And right about then, just as I was ephiphanizing about the world’s religions to distract from thinking about how much I would be charged for breaking the scooter – fifty dollars? A hundred? – trying to remember what the rental contract said, if it said anything at all, and where I’d even put it – well, right about then is when the bug hit me square in my open eyeball.

And stuck there.

And began to sting.

And then burn.

I started slowing down while desperately digging fingers into my eye, but the stinging and burning made me squeeze that brake a little harder, harder, and harder still, until, as one might expect from a tourist on a rented moped in a foreign land, I laid that sucker down.

For the second time.

My left calf and knee and elbow and hand took the brunt of the physical damage, my ego taking the rest. I jumped up almost as quickly as I’d gone down, looking around to discover that no one, save for a stray mountain dog, bore witness to my glorious fail. I wiped the embedded wet gravel from my palm and leg, my shorts and sleeve. My shoe and the scooter itself were speckled with muddy sand too, but I left that for the rain to wash off, thankful I hadn’t broken anything more, be it more scooter or bones.

I could have lied, I suppose. Well, more than suppose – lying was actually something I contemplated for much of the rest of the ride home. I was already 0-5 on the list of Buddhist precepts, lying being one, so I didn’t feel like it’d damage my chances of joining the faith any more than they already were. I could use the epoxy in my room, bought to reattach the soles of the leather sandals I’d purchased for $10 from a Masai in Zanzibar. I could just glue the mirror back on, and then ease the scooter over the curbing of the rental place upon my return.

But then, what if it fell off right then and there, with epoxy residue turning an awkward moment into a despicable one? But maybe it would work, I countered, just long enough for me to leave Siem Reap and travel on. What then? Well, it might fall off in a day or two, for one, and what if I ended up sticking some poor college kid on a $25-a-day budget with a hundred dollar repair bill?

“Oh don’t worry, these mirrors just fall off for no reason all the time,” the girl who ran the shop might say, with a hint of Cambodian sarcasm, before telling him he’d get his passport back only after he forked over the cash.

Or it might fall off when the boy, her younger brother, washed the scooter down with the hose the next morning. By then I’d already be on the road to Bangkok, impossible to find, entirely free and clear. But still, they’d know. And more importantly, I’d know. And just because I spent most Sunday mornings at St. Augustine’s Church sitting in the back row, chewing gum bought with money Dad had given me for the coffers while daydreaming about endless acts of personal heroism, that doesn’t mean I’d avoided my baptismal religion’s greatest gift – Catholic Guilt.

And this was a nice and kind family, simply trying to eke out a living. Covid left everyone here in Cambodia, in Vietnam, across Africa and beyond, with no income and zero government assistance for over two years. And I broke the damn bike, after all, while acting like a jackass, no less. And I’d already started acting responsibly today – right before acting utterly irresponsibly, sure, but for me that still counts as being on a sort of roll.

I’d motor the rest of the way home, without incident, pondering the fate of my soul and the scooter damage done. How much would it cost? A hundred dollars didn’t seem out of the question. Sure, a mirror probably doesn’t cost that much here, but it’s a rental, and the scooter would be out of commission, and there’s the general inconvenience, not to mention an entirely acceptable penalty for simply being an idiot. A hundred wouldn’t break my bank, but when that’s your total daily budget, the thought still stings a bit, especially when you have an hour or so over which to ponder.

Do the right thing, the voice inside my head insisted, even if you do get gouged for the damage. They’re nice people and they’re just trying to make a living. Sure, they probably have a pile of spare mirrors out back, a graveyard of scooter parts from idiots past. The kid will probably have it replaced in five minutes, too, the bike not missing a single goddamn rental rotation, I thought with a grimace as I rode roads of picturesque rice paddies surrounded by glorious mountains, the irony of my curmudgeonly cynicism – a gift from Dad as powerful as anything with which the Vatican could burden me – rearing its ugly head.

But even if I do get gouged, the money wouldn’t be going to frivolous things, I countered my counter.

I do this a lot, arguing with myself over moral quandaries, willingly going down that bottomless rabbit hole.

It’d more likely go to food. Or bills. Or into the bank to help them get through the world’s next, seemingly inevitable pandemic.

And besides, Dad might have gifted me his cynicism, and he probably would have laughed hysterically at my retelling of how the mirror fell off just as I was telling the young woman what a pleasant and uneventful time I had on their scooter. But at the end of the day, Dad was guided by morality and ethics. And unlike his youngest, at least, he was a devout Irish Catholic. He would have insisted I do the right thing. And maybe he was doing just that. Maybe his was the voice in my head.

I would arrive in trafficky darkness, shower, then grab a drink at my hostel bar before facing the music and my financial comeuppance. They’d closed early, so I had to WhatsApp the shop to open for me, sharing in writing that “I might have broken the mirror.”

No turning back now.

“So what’s wrong with the mirror?” the girl asked when I rolled up the curb and through the open gate.

“Well…,” I said, lifting the mirror from the pocket of the scooter and holding it near the broken arm onto which it was formerly attached. “To begin with, this should be connected to the end of that thing,” hoping a little levity might help my cause.

Nothing.

Shit.

I cut to the chase. “What do I need to pay for the damage?”

She looked at me, then at the mirror in my hand, and then asked me to wait a moment, taking out her phone and making a call.

Ahhh, the old “call my manager” shtick, I thought, that classic American car salesman tactic, allowing them to deflect the blame for the inevitable bad news about to come. “I’m sorry,” she would say any minute now. “I think it’s a lot too, but that’s the price the owner gave me.”

She spoke in Khmer, yet another language of which I’ve failed to learn even the most basics pleasantries. How convenient, I thought. I’m about to get ssooo screwed. Half a minute later, she hung up. Here it comes.

My mother said it will cost five dollars.”

“What?”

“Five dollars. Is that okay?”

“Five dollars? Uhmm, yeah, that…that seems fair,” I said, handing her a 50,000 riel bill. “Do you have change?”

I walked back to my hostel, the relief at my fortune turning to guilt for my cynicism, my lack of faith in humanity, in this nice family, and the misguided internal debates that had dominated my thoughts the past few hours.

“With our thoughts, we make the world,” Buddha said.

If that’s true, what kind of world do I think we live in? What kind of world do I live in? What kind of world do I want to live in?

I should have told her to keep the change, I suddenly thought. Should I have, though? Would that have been kindness? Or guilt, perhaps. It might have been seen as pity, maybe even insulting?

I didn’t have an immediate answer to that question. And luckily, I didn’t need one. Not right then, anyway. I had a six-hour shuttle ride to Bangkok ahead of me, plenty of time to fully engage my next moral quandary, journey down the next bottomless rabbit hole. Just me. And Dad too, perhaps. Time to think not simply about whether a few dollars would have been seen as kindness or pity, but to create the world in which I want to live from that moment forward.

Maybe this is my new thing, starting my visits in depressing places where man’s inhumanity to man is on full display. The truth is, the world is full of them. In Phnom Penh, skipping The Killing Fields would be ignoring this important history, turning a blind eye to the memory of the human beings who suffered simply because they lived. “Those who ignore history,” as they say…
More than one million Cambodians (with some estimates closer to two million) were victims of the Genocide carried out during the brutal Pol Pot regime. Five thousand skulls of the eight thousand human beings who died at Choeung Ek are on display in the site’s Buddhist stupa.
There are four sides to this stupa, an emotionally overwhelming sight to behold.
Most of the skulls are tagged to indicate the manner in which each man, woman, or child was murdered. Hoes, clubs, spikes, axes…as if genocide isn’t horrific enough, the methods which were used achieve the seemingly impossible – making the heinous act of Genocide even more cruel.
Not the most uplifting way to begin a blog, but it’s exceptionally important for each of us to see and remember and acknowledge the darker capabilities of man. When we hear the word Genocide, most think of Nazi Germany in the ’40s. But the Cambodian Genocide was the late ’70s. Rwanda was the ’90s. Darfur in the early 2000s. Today, right now, Genocides are taking place in Myanmar, China, Ethiopia, Iraq, Syria, and South Sudan – and these are only the places the U.S. has formally labeled “Genocide,” which isn’t as easy as it sounds, making the promise of “never again” ring ever-so-hollow.
Just when I feel a bit overwhelmed, however, the world has a funny way of reminding me just how wonderful it can be, and just how connected we all really are. This is James. James is Cambodian. He was also raised in Smith Hill, in Providence, Rhode Island, just a few streets from where Dad – also James – grew up. I found him running Boston’s, a restaurant/bar decorated with New England sports memorabilia. Boston’s is on a side street I went down only because I’d taken a wrong turn. Fate. We talked about NY System and Fellinis and traded names of people we know. Now I just need to do something about the traitorous Brady and Gronk jerseys he’s still got hanging on the wall.
No one tells me what to do.
Having done my penance in Phnom Penh, I would begin my visit to Siem Reap in a more pleasant manner – visiting a favorite of Margot’s, Footprints Café, for a little pick-me-up.
Angkor Wat, the largest religious monument in the world, was built in the early 1100s by the Khmer King Suryavarman II. At the time, it was the capital of the Khmer Empire.
Rising nearly 100 feet, the Bakan is the tallest structure within Angkor Wat…
…and despite the convenient little staircase, it is not for the faint of heart. I’m not sure how the monks climbed up and down the even steeper concrete stairs over the centuries, wearing those ankle-catching robes, without the benefit of a handrail. I imagine there was an “incident” or two.
As I did with a lantern memorial on Vietnam’s Thu Bon River – and so many other places during this incredible journey – I would light some incense as an offering for Dad here at Angkor Wat. I’ve got him pretty much covered by all the Bigs, just in case the others have been wrong all along.
From Angkor Wat, I would scooter a short distance to Bayon Temple, erected in the late 1100s. There are more than 70 major buddhist temples in Angkor, never mind the hundreds of minor ones. Nearly 98% of Cambodians are Buddhists, and Buddhism has existed here since the 5th century. It’s impossible to travel any road without seeing several formal and informal monuments and shrines.
Ornate carvings depicting Kings and Battles and ceremonies adorn the outer walls of Bayon.
The skies would open during my visit…
…and I found myself trapped alone – or almost alone – for quite some time. We had a chat.
I wasn’t the only one who would end up all wet. See some frolicking monkeys here.
The Gate of The Dead, from the late 12th Century.
All Buddhism and no play makes Pete a dull boy...
I busted some moves. And maybe my hip.
Along my scooter journey to the Kulen Mountains.
The entrance to the temple of the Reclining Buddha in the middle of the Kulen Mountains.
This just never ever gets old for me, being able to see and feel ornate stonework that was carved by some dude more than a thousand years ago.
By the time this family was done presenting their offering of thanks – a common sight at temples across the country – Ganesh had sweets for days.
Yours truly with what I thought was THE Reclining Buddha. Turns out this was just a warm-up.

That said, now picture that idol with a cup of froyo.

Right?

That’s going to be my offering from now on. Together, we can make it a thing.
High above the Preah Ang Thom Pagoda, carved directly into the top of the sandstone mountain, lies the actual Reclining Buddha, the largest in Cambodia, coming in at 26′ feet, head to toe.
Who the hell would travel all the way into the Kulen Mountains, climb all those the stairs, and then write on the goddamn Buddha?
Probably this guy. There are bathrooms all over this holy site, but why let that stop you from whipping it out and taking a leak when the moment strikes.

I can only hope Ganesh gifted him a kidney stone.
My pre-damage ride, which wasn’t the best mode of transportation for the bouldery, rutty pathways to come.
Ornate temples full of idols of all shapes and sizes are common throughout the country.
These were all in a remote village I accidentally came across in the middle of the mountain forest.
It was hot. Do I look hot? I was hot.
GEAUXXXXXXXX.
The famed waterfall of Phnom Kulen National Park. It had begun to rain by the time I arrived in late afternoon, sending most everyone else home for the day. You can only get so wet, I figured, so I headed in for a shower under the falls.
More showers headed for Kulen during my ride down the mountain. It was time to bend that governor and step on that gas and wake the neighbors as I opened that scooter up on the 90 minute ride back to Siem Reap.
While steeling my nerves for my scooter comeuppance, I met a cool cat back at Onederz Hostel who knew Bruno from Cape Town. The resemblance is uncanny.

Cambodia hadn’t actually been on my itinerary. But more than a few friends, old and new, thought it crazy that I fly over, from Vietnam to Thailand, instead of traveling by land to see Siem Reap and Angkor Wat along the way. They were right, of course. My time there wasn’t long enough, but it was time well spent, and I would certainly go back, the sights, the history, the food – and the Cambodian people themselves – all part of a world in which I am quite thankful to live.

Until next time, ជយោ!

‘Nam

29: Hanoi, Cat Ba, Hoi An, Danang, Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon).

This ain’t your father’s father’s Vietnam.

Makin’ it rain in Vietnam. I always told you two losers I’d be a millionaire some day.

Xin Chào, Ernie and Hadley!

Well, guys, I think we can all agree that India was a bit of a ginormous bummer. I wanted out so badly I flew with a concussion, a gashed hand, injured ribs, and maybe worst of all, only one goddamn cocktail all day. I left my hostel in Delhi at 10:30AM and didn’t arrive in Hanoi until 5 the next morning. I wanted out so badly that I didn’t even care my that arrival was smack dab in the middle of Vietnam’s Reunification Day celebration. What’s that, you ask? Excellent question, Ern. Reunification Day is the celebration of Vietnam’s victory in The American War and the reunification of North and South Vietnam, so what better day for a 55-year-old pasty-white middle-class American guy to be walking through the streets of Hanoi in his hiking shoes, cargo shorts, baseball cap, and fancy little Osprey backpack?

I should take a moment to point out that even at my ripe old age, I’d never once heard it referred to as The American War. I mean, of course it would be, right? The Vietnamese aren’t calling their war with America The Vietnam War – that’d be cuckoo, and yet I was no less dumbfounded the first time I heard it. Never too old to learn, as they say.

I had no real intention of coming here, as you both know. Sure, there’s always at least one person who says “My god you just HAVE to go to yada-yada place,” like when Margot said I simply had to go to India, ranting and raving and insisting it be on my itinerary – right up until the minute my post recounting what a living nightmare it was went live, and she simply wrote, “Right!?!?!?”

“No-no -no, I never said I loved it, Peter,” she defended. “I simply said you had to experience it firsthand.”

SEMANTICS, MARGOT! GODDAMN SEMANTICS!

But when it came to Vietnam, I probably had half a dozen people tell me I needed to visit, not to mention Hoi An coming in at #34 on Lonely Planet’s Top 500 must-see places in the world.

I don’t know exactly what I was expecting. Terraced rice paddies? Probably. Those funny little bamboo hats? Most definitely. People standing in front of street food joints with wiggling squid tentacles being slurped between their lips? I could only hope.

In my defense, most Americans my age and older know just one Vietnam, thanks to being alive while it was still raging, and to that 400-hour series from Ken Burns, not to mention a catchy Broadway musical about a bunch of hard-to-like GIs, and endless 3AM viewings of Platoon and Full Metal Jacket during those late-night Newport years with Erik, Davey, Gusman, and Tope. And “Vietnam” is still such a stain on the memory of America that I rarely come across anything celebrating its modernity, amazing culture, or lively social scene.

And besides – they’re stinkin’ commies, ammiright!?

Interesting note – it turns out they’re also socialists. True fact. And it hurt my brain trying to figure out exactly how that works. I have enough trouble putting the specific differences between Communism and Socialism into words without trying to comprehend The Socialist Republic of Vietnam under the rule of a communist government. I’ve read about it four times now and still can’t tell you how it actually works. So instead of putting my head down and trying to actually learn something, I did what I did all through high school and college, and that was to simply enjoy the ride – and enjoy it I most certainly did.

The thing I enjoyed the most, however, doesn’t appear in the photos below, and that was the gentle spirit and kindness of the people themselves. A communist government can force its citizens to keep a clean storefront and follow rules of law and order, sure. It did seem like Hanoi suddenly became midday active and industrious with the flip of a switch at 7AM, even on a Sunday. But no one can force people to smile sincerely, chat with neighbors, greet one another with laughs, pleasantries, and flowers, and you can’t fake wrinkles, man – the face don’t lie. If you’re a frowner, unhappy, defeated, beaten down, your true self shows in lines your resting face simply can’t hide. In Hanoi in particular, the people looked and seemed truly and sincerely happy and content. Keep that in context, guys. I arrived during a festival, and I’m not pretending life here is all bliss. I was also told that the demeanor of the people is markedly different in the south due to the political history of the country, but even as far as Ho Chi Minh City it was relatively the same (even if most of the locals I met there were the ladyboys of Bui Vien trying to get me to buy them drinks). I’m simply saying that the people and vibe in the small part of Vietnam that I experienced was one of contented happiness and welcome in the context of life that is hard to live all over the goddamn world.

Or maybe India had just fucked me up more than I realized.

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Hanoi

Hanoi’s Old Town blends the traditional with the modern, maintaining its historic charm while providing plenty of American and European creature comforts. There’s a perfect amount of grit to remind you you’re in a country half a world away, mixed with an obvious pride in presentation – so while scooters are parked on the sidewalks, they’re in perfect order. While everyone sits outside eating and drinking at little kid-sized tables in kid-sized chairs, and food is prepared and cooked in open kitchens, the sidewalks – even though they’re so crowded with motos and tables and shop-wares that you can’t walk on most of them – are swept spotless, and food safety at least feels like it could possibly be a thing. There are quaint shops and cafés, hip bars, nightclubs, and a wide array of restaurants, all with colorful lights and lanterns and flags adorning almost every tree-lined street. It was really quite nice.

Too early for check-in, a cup of the best java I’ve ever had in my life at Coffee 24 gave my tired eyes and banged up muscles and bones a much needed boost of faux youthful energy – Time for some sightseeing, WOOHOOOO!
Okay well I might have been a bit overzealous with that “woohooo,” as my first stop would be Hỏa Lò Prison, better known in the U.S. as The Hanoi Hilton. Hỏa Lò was actually built by the French, with its original methods of inhumanity and torture used on Vietnamese who had the audacity to not want to be colonialized. Prisoners would be shackled at their ankles most of the time, as pictured above. This was actually one of the more “humane” treatments inside the walls of this horrible, horrible place. As with most forts and prisons and castles built on foreign soil by the French, it would be abandoned the minute the enemy fought back, with French forces ceding the prison – and its tools and lessons of torture – to Vietnamese control.
Like most countries – the U.S. included – Vietnam is no stranger to whitewashing the truth of its own inhumanities. As a visitor here, if you knew no better, you’d think “The Hanoi Hilton” got its name because it was more like a vacation getaway for the soldiers who were so kindly detained there. Even the description in the photos of the late war hero, Senator John McCain, shows him being “saved from drowning” by “heroic” local fishermen.
The streets of Hanoi suddenly come alive as if on cue. Ebullient greetings to neighbors and friends, shop and café owners joyfully arranging flowers bought from passing vendors, and I being met with sincere welcoming smiles from young and old alike. And sure, some of those elderly not only smiled, but laughed too, making me wonder if my hair was doing that thing again.
Flags and lanterns and trees and plants add to the vibrant colors of a lively Hanoi.
Fruits and vegetables, flowers and nuts, all for sale from Hanoi street vendors.
From the African continent to India to Southeast Asia, riding with three, four, and even five unhelmeted passengers – from kids like these down to newborn babies, pets, and hell, I even saw an eagle once – is commonplace.

Join me, my driver (and all of my gear) on a scooter ride through town. A Steve McQueen chase scene this is not, simply a taste of streets of Hanoi. Click here.
One of the few visual reminders that I was in a socialommunist country was the massive, mostly stark square and monument hosting the body of former Prime Minister and President, Ho Chi Minh, which is on public display most mornings. I assume its only open during the mornings because it just gets too hot in the afternoon and, well, even the best embalmers can only…well…never mind, I feel like I’ve said too much…
No matter where I travel, tourists love doing their anything-but-candid candid photos (Most happiness in photos is a goddamn lie, Hadley, remember that), but the Southeast Asians, well, they are truly the masters, sometimes taking a dozen shots before getting that perfect “candid.”
Candid or not, this one was too pretty a picture for me to pass up.
And then there’s me.

Hanoi’s famous “Train Street,” known for a unique coexistence between cafés, restaurants, bars – and oh yeah – an active railway! In America it’d take about 45 minutes before some drunken asshat from Choate slipped out of his pennyloafers and got mangled by a train, and the whole thing would be ruined for everybody else. Not in Vietnam, though, here you’re probably just dumped out back while your table is wiped down for the next set of paying customers.
Check out the train here.
Southeast Asia is silly with Buddhist temples. This would be the first of roughly 11,734, give or take, that I would see in the coming weeks. If the world’s one true religion is based on who has the most idols, all you Imams and Padres out there better buckle up.
Offerings are left at every temple, from crackers to cookies to water to beer (see left). Not a religious man myself, it’s no less moving to see the truly devout in the midst of worship.
Funny story…ehem...so, in the temple that’s in the middle of a lake in central Hanoi, there’s this sacred taxidermied turtle, and it…it…y’know what, let’s let Wikipedia tell it…

Near the northern shore of Hoàn Kiếm Lake lies Jade Island, on which the Temple of the Jade Mountain is located. On June 2, 1967, a Hoàn Kiếm turtle died from injuries caused by an abusive fisherman that was ordered to net the turtle and carry it, but instead hit the turtle with a crowbar. The turtle’s body was preserved and placed on display in the temple. That particular specimen weighed 200 kg (440 lbs) and measured 1.9 metres long (6 ft 3 in).[7] Until that time, no one was sure if the species still lived.

In fairness, funny can be subjective, and that taxidermy job isn’t helping.
Speaking of subjective humor, in another of the Buddhist temples is a massive billboard with at least twenty illustrated examples of the “Laws of Karma,” and let me tell you, it was hypnotic. This is the one that made me realize that Dad just might have been a Buddhist monk in a previous life.
This one, well, of all of the possible examples to illustrate, this finely crafted watercolor horror made me laugh out loud. Is that wrong?

Maybe I should be a little less honest here. Yeah.
Dong Kinh Nghĩa Thực Square is where the bulk of the festivities took place. From live music to street food to performance art to waltzing, games, and more. A decidedly family-friendly atmosphere, but the square is surrounded by places where adults can enjoy a libation or two.
Check out a little panorama video view here if you so choose.
Another funny story. There was a very loud song playing on mind-numbing repeat at one end of the square, something about “Janus,” with a crowd of onlookers staring and waving and taking pictures with this young woman. Obviously, she’s some sort of Vietnam pop celebrity, her name is Janus, and the song is a bit of classic self-promotion, I brilliantly surmised. I figured it’d be amusing to get a picture to brag to my nieces. It wasn’t until the next day that I realized Janus is actually, well, the scooter, a recently released model in Vietnam. This still doesn’t explain why the locals gathered and waved and waited to snap photos with a goddamn scooter. Fuckin’ ‘Nam, man.
The bridge to The Temple of the Jade Mountain, on Jade Island, in Hoàn Kiếm Lake.
Nighttime in Hanoi’s Old Town.
A million scooters and only so much sidewalk space means some creative parking is required. One inch wider and that thing is stuck like Mike Mulligan’s Steam Shovel.
Insert your jokes here, Ernie and Hads (I do not approve of politically incorrect humor, as you both know), but the stray cats and dogs in Vietnam are crazy skittish, this one having none of my “Hey little buddy” shtick. That look made me remember my conversation with Dr. Demick from Wakefield when I opted out of the preventative rabies shot, assuring her I never ever pet stray cats or dogs…right before telling her I only have four or five adult bevvies in a typical week.

Cat Ba

Cat Baand no, it’s not named after you two – is a gorgeous island about two hours east of Hanoi, located in the Bay of Tonkin, in northeastern Vietnam, and it was going to allow me a chance to get back into nature, from its plentiful beaches to the mountains of its national park. My stay coincided with another festival, this one celebrating something-something that no one seemed able to explain – not because of any language barrier, but simply because they actually didn’t know. Some hotel and hostel owners were even surprised to learn there was a massive waterfront stage being constructed at the end of their street. If Hanoi made me (mostly) forget I was in a communist governed country, this festival would be a stone cold reminder, with the masses turning out to celebrate something something something…

The festival was like attending the world’s largest retirement party at your local Club 44, with seemingly endless droning speeches and plaques and awards being handed out at the same time the pasta and chicken is being delivered to everyone’s tables. No one seemed to care what was happening on stage, though, as long as there was food and drink and fun. Well, almost no one.
This guy was a little too overzealous for my taste, his balloon-accompanied patriotic swaying in no way matching the mood of the moment. All eyes are on you, bud, and not in a good way.
“I have a great idea for the kids. Picture this, I dress as an adult-sized version of the nightmare-inducing flying monkeys from The Wizard of Oz…”
Some of the mesmerizing islands of Cat Ba Archipelago I saw while boating, kayaking, and swimming in Ha Long Bay.
The fisher-men-and-women live in floating homes throughout the stunning bay. Video here.
Funny story 3. Part of our trip included kayaking into the bay caves. I wanted to kayak alone, but one of the organizers asked if I’d go with this woman – an elder Vietnamese who spoke zero English. What the hell, I thought, this might be fun. Funny, maybe, but not fun. To start, she literally paddled backwards. Literally. I had to stop another kayaker to ask him to please translate my instructions. From then on she simply smacked the paddles down into the water, left, then right, then left… As I tried to steer us to shoreline caves, she resisted my efforts. When we finally went through the “signature” cave and came out into a gorgeous inlet surrounded by hills and mountains and found ourselves peacefully alone, she panicked and wanted to go back immediately, while I fought the urge to hit her in the head with my paddle and quietly slip her over the side.
My destination for the day – the peak of Gnu Lam Trail in Cat Ba National Park.
I cut down and dragged this entire tree all the way to the park entrance before someone told me it wasn’t what I thought it was.
Hot, humid, and filled with cicadas brandishing mini buzzsaws (listen), but the Gnu Lam Trail peak views were stunning.

Panoramic view here.
On the road to Cat Ba National Park I would also visit Hospital Cave and Trung Trần Cave, just a couple of the countless cave systems throughout Vietnam. Here I am with my guide, Manơcanh, in Hospital Cave, which got its name during the war because it was a…well, you know.
Inside the well hidden cave entrance, a series of steel doors led to hospital treatment rooms as well as rooms for war planning and strategy and more.
In this room is a display showing how nurses worldwide actually spend most of their days.
Mom knows what I’m talking’ ’bout.
This huge “second floor” was used for physical training, combat training, a movie theater, and more.
I ain’t ‘fraid of no snake. In fact, I befriended and took this one home in my shirt pocket and then shipped it to Mom on the States. Speaking of which – Mom, watch for a package from Vietnam!

Also, pick up some mice.
Sunset from Cannon Fort above Cat Ba.

Hoi An

The ancient trading port of Hoi An is the location that brought me to Vietnam, coming in at #34 in Lonely Planet’s Top 500. Whether this UNESCO World Heritage Site should come in that high is up for debate – much like Slovenia’s Lake Bled – but it sure is a quaint and beautiful city with wonderful history and tradition.

Easily, 70% of the sites to see were temples, but all were beautifully appointed.
Temple offerings.
Nguyễn Thái Học.
This is “Arby” (not his real name), a hanger-on from India I met when arriving in Hanoi, who proceeded to follow me to a few countries (not entirely uncommon when backpacking). He’s a very wealthy Indian making American money, who relentlessly worked everyone in these tourism-starved countries down to bare minimums on sales (and would then walk away over a 50-cent difference on items like clothing). Here he’s working this woman over an entire bunch of bananas. In the end he paid just a few cents, and when she, clearly disappointed with the end result, said “I have to be able to eat, ” he offered her one of his bananas. I would eventually dismiss him for good when he outed himself as a hardcore racist, tripling down when given the opportunity to clarify or backtrack. I’m too old to have people in my life who hate, and Arby did very little to repair my exceptionally negative experience in India. My one regret here is I didn’t hand this woman a tenner, but then charity can be just as insulting as being chinced over goddamn bananas.
Pointy hat jackpot during a Bamboo Basket Boat ride in the coconut groves of Hoi An!

Click here to see a bamboo boat in action for way-too-touristy entertainment.

Click here to see river karaoke – the people here do love their goddamn karaoke.
Street vendors of Hoi An.
All of the street vendors here appeared to be women, now that I go through pics. Hmm.
Small birds are kept in cages for sale all over Hoi An. For pets? For snacks? I never found out. But a woman was holding this one as I walked past when it jumped onto my back. After she removed it, well, I think it’s safe to say we had “a moment.” I sometimes wake in the middle of the night thinking I should have bought and saved it. Or at least seen what it tasted like.
Hoi An’s iconic Bridge of Lights.
During the 16th and 17th century, lanterns appeared in Hoi An. Hung in front of houses, they were believed to bring good luck. In recent decades the Lantern Festival, which takes place on the 14th of each month, made its appearance, during which locals and visitors alike worship deceased loved ones with lit candle lanterns set afloat in the Thu Bon River.

Click here to see Dad’s spirit celebrated on the Thu Bon.

Danang

With origins dating back to 192 AD, Danang is Vietnam’s fifth largest city and also one of its most important trade ports. Modern hotels line its beautiful and active South China Sea coastline, with ancient temples, caves, and scenic national park hiking routes all within a short scooter ride.

Danang Beach at night.
The $88 million, fire-breathing Dragon Bridge stretches over the River Hàn.
The gorgeous coastline of Son Tra Peninsula. I rode the scooter along the winding, scenic roads a couple of times for views and hikes into its park – and to visit the country’s tallest Buddha…
Son Tra Linh Ung Pagoda features the tallest statue in Vietnam, the 220-foot tall “Goddess of Mercy,” or “Lady Buddha,” which looks out on the sea and ports of Danang. Whether you’re a Buddhist or not, this is one impressive and beautiful statue.
All along Danang Beach were groups of fishermen working nets like these. Five, six, or seven men (and couple of women) slowly walk backward, pulling and stacking the long lines, then rotating to the front of the line. I sat for twenty minutes at one point, hoping to see their catch, but despite hundreds of feet of rope being pulled ashore, I saw no nets until I was riding past later in the day…
Excitement turned to a bit of melancholy, however, as hours of labor in the blazing heat and sun resulted in a catch of small fish, crabs and shellfish that wasn’t enough to fill a five gallon bucket.

Fisheries across the world have been raked of their resources, folks.
Like something out of Indiana Jones, Huyen Khong Cave is easily the most impressive of the caves of The Marble Mountains, a series of five hills rising suddenly above Danang. The Marble Mountains contain a vast system of passageways and caverns with ornate temples and impressive viewpoints.

During the war, American forces occupied Danang. Despite this occupation and an allied airfield nearby, the Vietcong actually occupied The Marble Mountains, and even had a hospital within one of its caves (different from Hospital Cave). Former U.S. soldier-turned-journalist-turned-screenwriter, William Broyles Jr., once said that the [Vietcong] were so “certain of our ignorance…that he had hidden his hospital in plain sight.”
The walk down the stairway into its main chamber is breathtaking.

Walk into Huyen Khong Cave with me.
Cellphones, man. Ugh.
Am Phu Cave in the Marble Mountains was filled with statues supposedly representing Buddhist Hell, but the guy on the ground seems to be enjoying it a bit too much…and the guy standing up is wearing makeup and lipstick and toenail polish…why is this so damn familiar…
Waaaiiit, now I remember, I accidentally walked into a club like this in New York City once.

No, wait…twice.
Coconut break.
Followed by an Imperial IPA at Dirty Fingers, owned by an expat Louisianian named Scott who came to Vietnam decades ago to work in the oil business. Dirty Fingers started as a place “where I could drink beer and play music with my buddies,” Scott said. “We had no silverware, so you had to eat everything with your hands.” Thus the name.

Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon)

I would end my visit here in bustling “Saigon,” the largest city in Vietnam, an unplanned transfer point to my next destination – but I’m glad I did. If not just for its historical significance, depicted so often in movies and novels and broadway musicals, then for its own little version of Bourbon Street, Bui Vien.

Early evening on Bui Vien, from The View Rooftop Bar atop my hotel, the Duc Vuong. This legendary bar was, unfortunately – like so many places in my travels – still “temporarily closed,” its tables and chairs and bar simply looking like they’d been cleaned and locked up for the night, awaiting the arrival of the morning’s Bloody Mary crew. Covid has devastated so many of these places that are almost entirely depend on tourism, but signs of recovery are starting to reappear.
Bustling Bui Vien. I can’t imagine what it’s like at peak tourism, though Mardi Gras comes to mind.
Whippets – balloons filled with nitrous oxide – were something I hadn’t seen since my French Quarter days. Here, however, waitresses seemed to be serving as many of these as they were cocktails.
Good news, white people – the Vietnamese have less rhythm than we do!!!!

The Go-Go dancers all along Bui Vien (this is an outdoor, street view) were fun to watch, but the lack of actual rhythm was even more intoxicating than the Tiger Beer.
The downside to any seedy place of joy is that joyful seediness happens when a blind eye is turned by local officials, and then, too, by the rest of us. Well after midnight I saw young boys working the streets, children as young as four or so running along through the bar crowds, unaccompanied by any adults in view, and mothers with infants in their arms as ear-piercing music blared from every single bar, resulting in a mishmash of unintelligible noise. The boy pictured above is carrying a plastic jar of fuel for fire-breathing. He and others would fill their mouths, breathe, spit, the potency of the fuel filling my own nose and throat as I passed. I imagine the life expectancy isn’t long for kids in this field of work. Seedy fun is all well and good, but there are limits, people.
Can I see one goddamn “Notre Dame Cathedral” that isn’t in a total rebuild???
The famous Saigon Central Post Office includes elements of Gothic, Renaissance, and French colonial design. Still today certain publications credit its design to Gustave Eiffel, but it was actually designed by French architect Alfred Foulhoux. At some point the French surrendered and ran away when angry Vietnamese postmen brandishing letter openers rushed the entrance.*


*A probably true historic assumption.
Maybe my favorite little side street in Saigon, Nguyễn Van Binh, lined on both sides with nothing but a dozen bookstores and a couple of cafés.
For my brother Jon.

I shipped a dozen home to you. They didn’t have dry ice but I sent them priority so all’s good.
Sunday in Tao Dan Park, where kids gathered under a gazebo to play music and sing while others danced, participated in exercises classes, practiced with their band, did Tai Chi, or simply enjoyed a coffee and a walk – exactly for what parks are made.
Whether in Vietnam or America, Ukraine or Russia, the senselessness of war brings out the same human emotions. Why and for whom and for what? It’s easy – and lazy – to think of the “Vietnamese” as wartime “enemies,” but parents and children and spouses and siblings everywhere are, in the end, no different than any of us. Few besides politicians and corporations truly benefit from war. Life is short and precious, and to have it cut short or destroyed by senseless acts of death and destruction is endlessly heartbreaking.
That said, there was zero chance I wasn’t having a Kurtz’s Insane IPA at the Heart of Darkness Saigon Brewery...and even less of a chance I wasn’t have two.
A little taste of Vietnam.

Until next time, Ernie and Hads, be good and kind to Jason, Rachel, and Grayson – and coming soon, a place where cats are king!

India

27: Holy Shiva

It’s not the heat, it’s the humanity.

Namaste, Ernie and Hadley!

It’s been far too long since I dropped you cats a note, and I send this with hopes that real Spring is finally in the air, allowing you both to shed those winter coats anywhere you damn well please – after all, it’s Jason and Rachelle’s problem now, woohoooo!

Speaking of Spring, it most certainly isn’t in the air in India. Apathy, sadness, destitution, illness, inequality, despair, pollution, trash – ungodly heat, sure. But Spring? Most definitely not. 

I began writing this from Delhi airport at the end of a long day. Long because I’d taken a digger earlier that morning on the marble stairs of my hostel lobby. And before you even make that face, Hadley, no, I wasn’t drunk, though I wish I had been. At least that way I’d have an excuse beyond just being an old guy whose flip-flopped-feet shot out from under him for seemingly no reason, resulting in an epic fail on his way to have poached eggs. 

If there’s any good news, it’s that there were no witnesses to my grave indignity – but maybe more important, my injuries didn’t require a journey into the belly of the beast – that of a Delhi ER – though that wasn’t entirely clear right away. Nothing was entirely clear, if I’m being honest, as I was sitting there on the floor, more than a bit dazed, my list of injuries absolutely including a mild concussion. In fact, one of the first things I did when I returned to my room – after overcoming my overwhelming desire to vomit and pass out – was google “is it safe to fly with a concussion?” Short of reading “your brain will most definitely explode,” little else was going to stop me from getting to the airport, getting onto my plane, and getting the hell out of this godforsaken country. Not a concussion. Not the open gash on my hand that our famous author friend, Jeff Hull (Pale Morning Done, Broken Field, and the soon-to-be-released, Pulitzer-winning Pud, Shit Happens) insisted would absolutely result in some sort of horrible infection. And not what I was sure were broken ribs, a pain so intense it was difficult to breathe, sit, stand, lie down, get up, cough, sneeze, sob like a wee little baby, never mind carry two full packs for the 24 hours of travel that lay ahead. 

But don’t let my whining color your view of India. Let’s let a local do that instead.

While I was in the airport, trying to down my first and only cocktail of the day before boarding my plane (nearly ten hours after arriving, mind you, the only pain meds I’d had since taking human flight), I overheard a born-and-raised Delhian, now living in the US, talking to another traveler about his homeland… 

“All of us,” he said. “Me. My sister who lives in Australia. My brother in the UK. Whenever we get together here, we all just shake our heads and agree, ‘this place just ain’t right.'”

Truer words have never been spoken, guys. This place. India. It just ain’t.

What is and ain’t right about India is complex – a long, complicated, and at-times overlapping list. I’m sure my take on it will upset some of the Hindustan dreamers out there, those kama sutra lovers, you downwith doggers (props to Ernie for that phrasing) – hell, even I fell victim to the quirky romanticism of Wes Anderson’s The Darjeeling Limited – so let me add my one and only disclaimer here, the caveat that will allow some of our yogis-next-door (I’m talking you, Boo, Margot, and Joanie) to keep their India joneses alive:

I only visited four places in this truly enormous country – Agra, Jaipur, Sawai Madhopur, and Delhi.

I didn’t make it to Rishikesh, not only the home of yoga, but also of the Beatles introduction to Transcendental Meditation (now I know why both were invented here – it was the only means of escape for those of lesser means). I didn’t make it to Mumbai, even though I could have attended a two-day Indian wedding with my friend Agustina had I stayed for just one week more. I didn’t visit the chilled-out southern beaches of Goa. And I didn’t even take a ride on Anderson’s iconic train, which still runs an eight-hour route in the Himalayas. 

And you know what? 

I won’t. 

And I never will. 

And I don’t care. 

Before I go all scorched earth, I should note it wasn’t all bad. I ate several amazing, home cooked Indian meals. I went to the Taj Mahal during the day – my reason for being here in the first place – and saw the sun set along its riverbanks in the evening. I went on two tiger safaris in Ranthambore National Park, and reveled in the legendary madness of Indian transportation, on trains, in Tuk Tuks, and even as a solo bicyclist. And despite how the rest of this might read, I met several, truly wonderful people.

So what exactly ain’t right?

To begin, India is a country that assaults every human sense, the promise of which, I must admit, was intoxicating at first.

But…

This noise is truly incessant, and far too often, entirely unnecessary. I once read that even Vishnu himself had scribbled in one of his early journals, “If one beeps at everything…does one really beep at anything at all?” It didn’t really catch on at the time, and was met with confusion and even derision by his early fans and critics – but it might be a text some Hindus want to revisit today. 

One might expect this kind of noise in metropolitan Delhi and Agra, sure, but even tractor drivers in the little village of Sawai Madhopur chugged past my room at The Village Heart Hotel each morning at 5AM with club music cranking from its speakers. By my last day there I had to fight the urge to run outside and hand him every last rupee I had to at least buy himself some serviceable subwoofers. 

Even in this remote Rajasthanian town you could be the only person walking along an empty stretch of roadway (an Indian unicorn in itself) and a moto driver coming at you on the other side of the road, visible for a half mile, will still beep several times as he passes, reminding you of the fact that peace and quiet belong to no man. 

Smells, Ernie? India has odors that would make your litter box – if unemptied for the entire length of my year abroad – smell like a bed of roses. 

Pollution in Delhi is so thick you can chew it.

There is so much dust and dirt in the air that when doing laundry at Zostel Hostel in Delhi, they had to wash my clothes twice (The good news? It still only cost three bucks).  

Trash is, well, everywhere. Piles of it. Disintegrating garbage bags of it. Bottles and cans and wrappers and packaging just dropped to the ground wherever and whenever its purpose is no longer served – out of train windows and Tuk Tuks by adults, by young kids walking down the street holding dad’s hand, it even makes up the riverbanks of the Taj itself.

The riverbank behind the majestic Taj Mahal is made up largely of trash, where a local boy was collecting discarded flip-flops while his goats grazed nearby. The relatively new aqueduct, seen on the left, funnels untreated sewage directly into the Yamuna River, hardly the only one that does so.
From Delhi to Agra to Jaipur to Sawai Madhopur, the length of the railway serves not only as a garbage dump, but quite often as a bathroom for the “untouchables.” A Delhian told me its not uncommon for guests at resorts in less ideal locales to open their curtains to poorer neighbors partaking in their morning constitutionals. To me, that says much more about government controlled infrastructure than it does caste or education.
Join me for a couple train rides: Train 1; Train 2; Train 3
Wild pigs scavenge amongst the garbage strewn about the streets of Sawai Madhopur.

The heat? My god, the heat. I used to enjoy quoting the movie, Biloxi Blues, referring to any oppressive heat as “Africa hot.” Well, I rode a bike for eight hours my very first day in India, visiting the Taj Mahal and Red Fort in Agra, and the temps that day topped out at 111 degrees.

One.

Hundred.

Eleven.

Degrees.

And I was riding a bike.

I’d just spent three and a half months in Africa, and India made the worst of that continent feel like the Bahamas, which I’m pretty sure I hallucinated I was biking through by mid-afternoon.

Bike ride along with me here.

And last but not least, of course, are the Indians themselves. Oh, the humanity. That insanely suffocating crush, so many people that there are literal foot-traffic-jams in some areas of Delhi – never mind actual traffic jams – where there is no such thing as personal space. It makes total sense on one hand – there are nearly one-and-a-half billion people in this country, so even the concept of personal space is something of which dreams are made. But then, less understandably, so it seems is the concept of common courtesy, where far too many of the people here seem to be aware of nothing beyond their immediate selves. Squeeze between me and the counter while I’m literally still completing a purchase isn’t about personal space – it’s simply about you being a dick. Lines? Lines be damned, unapologetically wedging yourself in front of me to put your bags onto the x-ray conveyor at the railway station, even as I’m extending my arms to lay down my own – when there’s no rush, no train about to leave you behind? Purposely gassing that Tuk Tuk to close the gap between bumpers so I quite literally cannot fit a leg between while trying to cross that clogged roadway in the heat and dust? Push me aside to cut in front while we’re all ambling like cattle through the crowded streets of Old Town, when getting in front of me gets you nowhere but one person closer to…what, exactly? Zero acknowledgement when I say “Please, you first, or when I help you with your bag, hold a door (a literal foreign concept my friend Abhay said took some time getting used to when he worked in the States), or move aside to let you pass because you appear to be in a rush?

Streets of India 1. Streets of India 2. Streets of India 3. Streets of India 4. Streets of India 5.

Yeah, I know, I’m sounding like an old man shaking an angry fist at those pesky neighborhood kids, and you’re both probably begging me to get to pictures of dogs suffering heatstroke, but these are just a couple instances in what was an honestly ceaseless, never-ending onslaught of sensory assault. Short of locking myself in my room, it never, ever ended – walk out that door, and I was immediately in the midst of the fray. At first, it was fun – become the water, I’d been telling myself. Go with the flow. But after a few days, I began telling myself, Y’know what, Pete? Fuck the flow.

India is a country where the caste system is built upon the very idea of human inequality. Where fellow human beings, simply by birthright, are matter-of-factly deemed “latrine cleaners,” their miserable fate predetermined by some shittily arbitrary luck-of-the-draw.

A seemingly uneventful pic, the driver of the Kia pulled up onto the curb across from Delhi Railway Station, laying relentlessly on his horn, forcing the man in yellow to quickly move his scooter to give the driver his space. No resistance. No thank you. No acknowledgment. For better or worse, that would have led to an altercation at home. Here, however, caste rules, baby.

India is a country where women are subservient and discriminated against simply for being female, where having daughters instead of sons is often considered misfortune. 

India is a country where marrying below your caste still brings actionable shame upon your family. 

India is a country where many elderly parents, too burdensome and expensive to care for, are dropped off by their children to live – and die – on the streets of its major cities. 

Where homeless teen boys, filthy beyond comprehension, sleep atop one another on the sidewalks in the scorching sun. 

Where someone at every single corner begs for rupees for food or drink, the very old and the far too young, pleading with filthy fingers to their mouths, mimicking their hunger. A place where this is so overwhelming, so incessant, that you eventually have no choice but to avert your eyes, say no with a hand held up, and walk on. Like everyone else here does, no one stopping to help their own countrymen and women, no one extending that hand downward to help the elderly man who is lying half in the gutter, mouth agape in the life-draining heat and humidity, staring into nothingness as if begging for sweet release. 

And yet, this is a place where cows are considered sacred. But are they, really?

I saw people feeding cows more often than I saw anyone feed a fellow human being, that’s true (actually, I saw no one feeding another human being). Many families feed bread to stray cows each morning. But there’s an important thing to note here – they’re strays, and these strays roam everywhere. The highways, side streets, sidewalks, yards, fields, train tracks, because once they can no longer produce milk, they’re set free to fend for themselves. I saw them in the middle of busy roadways struggling to eat discarded naan from the blacktop as cars and Tuk Tuks and motos sped around and past. I saw them atop trash piles, scavenging with mangy stray dogs, birds, and ducks. I saw injured cows and sickly cows, some with ropes still tied around their heads and necks. Not eating them might be considered a sacred act, but abandoning them to fend for themselves once they’re no longer useful to you is something less than sacred – and less than humane. 

On one hand, I saw kind men like Gajanand Sharma, the father of my host at The Village Heart Hotel in Sawai Madhopur, breaking daily bread with a neighborhood stray. This cow visited each morning, and would then move down to the neighbor’s home and wait patiently for the door to open to receive his next helping.
On the other hand…
…just one random, non-denominational American guy’s meaningless opinion here, but personally I think supposedly-sacred animals should live better than this.
A stray, rope still tied around its head, licks a tabletop clean on the streets of Agra.

Elephants here are still used to ferry tourists up and down scorching tarmac roads and cobblestoned walkways to see old fort ruins, despite the documented fact it wears the pads on their feet flat, causing excruciating pain. The argument by locals was that their livelihood depends on the money from said tourists – and it worked. Even in the elephant sanctuaries, such as the popular “Elefantastic,” tourists can still clamber up to ride and paint – yes, paint – these magnificent animals. Apparently, the only way the mistreatment will end is for the tourists to end it themselves. 

I could go on and on – as if I haven’t already – from how they dispose of their dead to the vastly underestimated number of covid victims to the flaunting of common sense public health regulations, but you can read about that on your own, and besides, Ernie is probably already on his back, legs splayed, lost in cat unconsciousness.

Signs like this shouldn’t be necessary in a developed nation. But they’re in parks, at airports, bus stations, train stations, in front of restaurants. I know they’re needed because people still refuse to heed the message, even within the walls of one of their most holy sites, Jama Masjid Mosque, as I bore witness myself.
I thought it was rather quaint when I came across this stray cooling himself in a pool along the roadside in Sawai Madhopur one day…
…until I passed a few hours late and discovered local boys bathing in the same pool.

And maybe the saddest part of this entry? I actually intended to make this a funny one, guys, I really did, as the last time Elle-B said one of my updates made her laugh out loud might have been when I almost beat up Francois, the Parisian midget. Now all I get from her are automatic messages saying “Your blog was read.”

But truth is, India made being funny very hard. In fairness to its fans and dreamers, my exposure was very limited, sure, seen from just one lens, one that certainly might have narrowed the more disillusioned I allowed myself to become. Maybe it simply wasn’t my cup of tea. But in fairness to me, I’ve been to other places that didn’t quite tickle my fancy, but my reaction was nowhere near as visceral. I’m well aware that in a country this large, there can be worlds of difference a few hundred kilometers down the road, and every country has its challenges – hell, the U.S. has Detroit and the entire state of Florida! But the overriding culture, caste system, openly accepted inequity (and yes, I’m well aware of the inequities in America), the systemically-demanded corruption, and what I cannot stop thinking of as a widespread, cultural lack of empathy, goes well beyond regional boundaries. Maybe I’d understand better if I’d stayed a while longer, within or without the madness. But the fact is, I didn’t want to. Going white-water-rafting in Rishikesh wasn’t going to magically erase what happens to females in this country, or to those with the misfortune of being born into a lower caste. And getting hippy high on the beaches of Goa would provide nothing more than a momentary escape from the realities that await those “burdensome” elderly, and these oh-so-sacred cows. 

Despite it all, however, I’m happy I went to India, I really am, and I’ll never forget it or regret it. I saw the Taj Mahal. I came within 15 feet of a massive, free-roaming, LSU Bengal TigerI had a wonderful homestay with Moses and his amazing family in Agra, where I ate delicious, traditional, home-cooked Indian meals, and enjoyed more of the same with Gulshan and his family in Sawai Madhupor. Sawai is a relatively destitute village town, with plenty of trash and even open sewage, but it is less crowded, simpler, more my speed, where smiling and giggling and adorable kids would follow me as I meandered through its streets, and where men and women, young and old alike, would come outside, stare for a moment, then break into shy grins and waves of hello. 

I got to see India firsthand, something I never imagined I would experience in my lifetime. But I don’t need to go farther North or South or East or West to dissect its layers and understand its nuance – humanity cannot be defined by nuance, after all. When a traveler needs to go to a different part of a country to witness moments of empathy and equality and lawfulness, the problem doesn’t lie in coordinates on a map, and the solution requires more than a train ticket to a more agreeable locale. So I’ll remain unapologetic about my take on my visit to India, maybe only until I come face to face with my friend Ashu, or maybe Abhay, sure, and maybe then I’ll offer a humbled apology for insulting their homeland. But the truth is, I’ve had plenty of time to think about this one, and my apologies will ring hollow, as they should. And besides, if any apologies are due, I really don’t think they should be coming from me.

Sure it’s a checklist item, but come on, it’s the frickin’ Taj Mahal!
Iconic Tourist Photo: Check.
The Taj at sunset, from an abandoned tower to which only guests of Zigzag Hostel have access. Moses and his brother John run Agra By Bike, and John was my guide this evening.
To access the Taj viewpoint, John took me through private government property, the security of which is managed by a local couple. It’s well-known that while private, a few rupees will get you through the gate (it’s just how things work here in India). And not only did John manage to get me, the goats, the wife, and the Taj in this shot – he also got a peacock in mid-flight. (slow clap)
Afterward, while waiting for my Tuk Tuk, I enjoyed a mango lassi at John’s shop and then a blessing from the priest at the temple next door.
My sleeper car from Agra to Jaipur.
Hey there little fella.
Baboons at the Railway Station in Agra.
The country was silly with peacocks.
Peacock takes flight in Ranthambore National Park.
By now I’ve seen dozens of forts, and if I’m being honest, I find ’em pretty goddamn boring. It was probably built by the French. The French probably surrendered and ran away at some point. Other guys took it over. They ate in this room, slept over here. Weapons were stored here. They did their exercises in this yard, blah blah. But whoever wrote this bit of snark won back a piece of my heart.
I came home from Ranthambore National Park to discover my hotel neighbor trying to coax a Boa Constrictor out of the brush. Not exactly the protective gear I would have chosen, but then what the hell do I know. He stayed at it for some time – and even his son and a grandmother got involved – but that snake never showed itself. Probably just slithered into my room.
Rockin’ out on the Ektara at Red Fort, in Agra. Listen here.
I was so programmed to say “no” to everyone and anyone who tried to pitch their wares that it took me a minute to realize this guy had offered to let me check my weight – I had to double back and ask him to repeat himself. To any of his family and friends who didn’t support the crazy insane dreams of this business savant, you owe him an immediate apology.
I tipped the scales at 79.8. One part toned muscle, the other part beer.
The exact breakdown of those parts is of little importance.
Meet Moses, the wonderful host of Zigzag Hostel in Agra. His mother and sisters prepared all of my amazing meals. His brother John took me on a bike and hike tour of the Taj Mahal at Sunset. And Moses provided me with transportation and guidance for Agra and beyond, and checked in on me long after I’d moved on. Truly wonderful people.
A little early morning railway station entertainment (click here) all for the price of a Coca-Cola.
You don’t have to ask kids in Africa or India to pose for a picture, they come to you, and just want to see the pic on your phone when it’s done.
Tiny humans can sometimes, for a brief moment in time, be pretty alright.
After two safaris and a LOT of watching sleeping cats from two hundred yards away, I’d resigned myself to leaving India without seeing one of your more glorious species – the mascot of our beloved LSU – up close. We’d exited the main entrance of Ranthambore National Park and were driving the service road to town when we came upon a stopped jeep and an excited, pointing young man. To our right, drinking from the river, was this guy, who easily could have crossed to the other side of the river and disappeared into the mountains. Instead, he decided to give us all a special treat, and a truly amazing finish to my quest. Video here.

Goodbye for now, guys. Be good, sleep well.

Next up: Vietnam.

SOUTH AFRICA

26: Cape Town

“Someday you’ll leave this world behind, so live a life you will remember.

The Nights, by Michael and Robert Silverman

The morning I left Malawi, I’d been drying my washed clothes on the thatched roof of my hut at Mabuya Camp in Lilongwe. They dried just in time for the skies to open up in a rare deluge. I and Savannah, a fellow American finishing up a couple of weeks of environmental research, left the muddied, pouring compound in a shared taxi for the tiny Lilongwe International Airport, the type of place where the security guard searching my bags kindly asked if he could have the pen he found in one of the pockets – for his son – and the terminal restaurant is a $5 plate of rice and chicken offered from a hot food station by the windows. So to say it was a bit of culture shock to suddenly find myself enjoying free wifi and a large Cappuccino in a ceramic mug along with a mushroom, spinach and cheese omelet on the sun-dappled patio of a happening and hip Cape Town café is, well, a major understatement.

I’d been told by many who’d been here before me that Cape Town isn’t “Africa,” per se, that it’s more like a European city – and they were right. And yet, as nice and comfortable and familiar as this suddenly was, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t having mixed feelings. I’d longed for fancy coffee and more of my traditional foods, not to mention being able to brush my teeth with actual tap water, but this would be the last country on my extended tour of this amazing continent, and I already missed the Baobab trees and villagers of Chembe, the barefoot kids waving to me throughout the day, and taking pleasure in simpler things – watching the fishermen go and come with their daily catch, the women washing clothes and pots and pans at the shoreline, the children singing in the street each evening. We wore no watches. We had no place to be. We told time by the sunrise and sunset. If it was adventure we sought, we could find it as easily on the roads of Chembe as we might in the National Park – or even just sitting together over a beer at the lodge.

Little did I know at the time that the next couple of weeks would be filled with natural beauty, incredible adventure, and memories I will cherish forever, memories that are uniquely South Africa.

A sure sign that adventure lay ahead – mountain tops jutting up through the clouds upon approach. “The pilot saw that, right? Hello? The pilot saw that?”
Most visitors’ first glimpse of Cape Town is that of the famous Table Mountain, part of the UNESCO Cape Floral Region World Heritage Site. You shouldn’t visit Cape Town without seeing the views from the summit firsthand – but not to worry, there’s a cable car. You just need to pick your moment, as the cloud cover changes just…like…
...that.
A close second for any hiking enthusiast (though some certainly claim it as their #1) is Lion’s Head, which sits directly across from Table Mountain. Both of these beauties, as well as Signal Hill and more, rise above the city and beautiful shoreline of Cape Town, making for majestic vistas from below as well as above.
Lion’s Head as seen from the hiking path to the Green Point neighborhood of Cape Town, my home turf during my initial stay.
Lion’s Head, my first quest.
Hikers don’t have to fight the brush to summit, there’s a dirt and boulder path that leads to the top, taking anywhere from 90 minutes to 3 hours to complete.
Looking easterly from the Lion’s Head summit trail.
The Sea Point neighborhood below. On this section of trail, one of the more challenging routes, hikers can choose between a more gradual or steeper path, the latter supported by chain rails…
…and ladders.
Gorgeous views of Signal Hill and the Green Point neighborhood of Cape Town from atop Lion’s Head Mountain. One down!
I met Nathan while taking a bus from Lusaka to Livingstone, Zambia. We would share a few adventures there, from touring Victoria Falls to cruising the Zambezi to visiting Mukuni Village by bicycle on a day that can only be described as “Africa hot.” We reconnected in Cape Town, where he’d been working remotely for the past three months, and he and I and his wonderful coworker, friend, and salsa partner, Agustina – who was beginning a travel adventure of her own that would take her from Cape Town to Mozambique, Zambia, Botswana and Mumbai – took a day to tour Cape Point, Cape of Good Hope, and of course, to see the penguins of False Bay…
‘Tis the season for penguin birthing, with mothers and fathers taking turns to nest with the eggs and new hatchlings, while the other hunts, forages, or just grabs a beer with the guys.
Hello, my friend.
While some might say Cape Town isn’t “Africa,” make no mistake, it is still very much so.
Cape Point Lighthouse.
On the hike from Cape Point to Cape of Good Hope.
Beautiful waters gave me hope of seeing the silhouette of one of South Africa’s most famous – and infamous – predators, the Great White Shark. I would have no such luck…for now.
Not the best quality pic (still waiting on that free iPhone upgrade from the good people at Apple) but it’s a worthwhile shot since this is the only place in the world where ostriches and ocean meet. You’re welcome.
Back in Cape Town for a little treat at Iron Steak & Bar. It’d been a long time since I’d had a real steak and real mashies and real greens and a real IPA. Delicious.
Nathan doing some sunset salsa dancing with the beautiful and multi-talented Yolanda Mutesasira. Check out her music here, but don’t forget – I knew her before she became known worldwide simply as Yolanda.
A typical Cape Town Sunset (yawn).
Whatevs, just a random gaggle of ostrich on the road to Agulhas National Park.
Agulhas National Park, at the southernmost point of the entire African continent, where the Indian Ocean and Atlantic Ocean meet. If one looks very closely, you can see the dividing line, where the water from one never mixes with the other. No, look closer...closer than that…
Hyrax roam the trailhead of St. Blaize like our pigeons-of-the-sea back home. Cute little fellas.
Hiking a portion of the incredibly scenic, 18-mile St. Blaize Trail, in Mossel Bay, the entire length of which follows the coastline.
(Kimsoo, you and I need to talk about my latest haircut.)
An ode to Margot as I await my Great White Shark cage diving adventure in Mossel Bay – this is the closest I could get to an official Team Zissou uniform for under $15 at the local Pep Store.

Diving with Great Whites wasn’t actually on my itinerary – but brother Steve talked some sense into me (“It’s Great White Shark Dive Mecca!”), while brother Jon put me in touch with the famous Chris and Monique Fallows – and suddenly my visit turned a bit more adventurous.
“Cage goes in the water. You go in the water. Shark’s in the water. Our shark. Farewell and adieuuu…”
Four different Great Whites would come to the cage while we were inside, with a fifth coming to the boat as we pulled the cage on board. An absolutely AMAZING experience, thanks to Apex Shark Expeditions, White Shark Africa, and of course, Atlantic Shark Institute!
Well hello, my friend.
And don’t ask me how, Joan, they simply find me…
“Thanks, Dr. Dimock, but I won’t need a rabies shot, I won’t be going near any animals during my trip – you have my word on that.”

I like a reasonable amount of adventure, more than some, less than many, and I’m generally okay with heights. I hot-air ballooned in Cappadoccia, and flew over Victoria Falls in a microlight plane, powered by little more than an industrial fan and kept secure by a single-buckle seatbelt, the likes of which aren’t even allowed in most American cars these days. My daredevil Mom and I share the amazing memory of going on a glorious glider ride over Newport many years ago, and I went skydiving with Erik Hanna and Dave Wight in Lincoln – finding that to be such a thrill that I went again a year later.

You don’t have that “falling” sensation when skydiving. It’s quite the opposite, actually. But bungee jumping? It’s nothing but that falling sensation, and maybe being eaten alive by a pack of hyena or accidentally set ablaze while grilling my world famous wings are the only other ways I’d rather not shake my mortal coil.

In Zambia, there’s a famous bungee bridge right by Victoria Falls, and the only way I avoided jumping there was because I opted for the microlight.

“And besides,” I told Nathan, who had told me about his jump in South Africa – “If I’m gonna jump, it’s going to be from the world’s highest bungee bridge.”

At the time, it was little more than a delay tactic, if I’m being honest. I’d kind of counted on something coming up between that and this moment, when I found myself looking out at the tiny little dots in the distance that were people jumping and falling…and falling…falling an extraordinarily long, long way before that glorified elastic band even began to stretch taut.

“Can I just walk out and watch from the bridge?” I asked one the members of the Face Adrenaline jump team.

“Of course, but once you’re there, you’re going to want to jump, my friend.”

Damn you.

Bringing “jhd” (Dad) along for my jump from Bloukrans Bridge, the World’s highest. I can almost hear him now, saying “Peter, this might be the smartest thing you’ve ever done in your entire life. This…this is why you were always my favorite, favorite son.”
I thought that going to the observation platform to watch a few jumpers leap from that little tiny spot at the top of the arch, beneath the roadway, might ease my anxiety and build my courage.
It most decidedly did not.

My famous author friend, Jeff Hull (Pale Morning Done, Broken Field, and the forthcoming NYTimes Bestseller, Pud), talked of the sense of freedom and exhilaration he felt once he stepped off terrafirma, bungee jumping from an abandoned overpass in Detroit, I think it was. I did not feel that. Instead, I kind of felt like I’d been pushed off the world’s highest bungee bridge and was plummeting to my death for roughly eleven minutes.

Video 1: Watch here.
Video 2: Full Jump, watch here.
The taste of victory. Treating myself to a delicious Redwood Ale at Tsitsikamma Microbrewery (with a shoutout to my friends at Shaidzon, of course).
And don’t worry, Mom, I wasn’t drinking alone – my friend Bird was with me.
And what did I tell you, Joan? It’s not me.
My fun in the Garden Route section of South Africa was far from over. This is the waterfall hike section of Otter Trail, in Tsitsikamma National Park, on a gorgeous South Africa morning.
Along the way I would come across Guano Cave. For those in the know, guano means bat shit, and bat shit means, well, bats. Bat caves are creepy, so of course I was going in.
I’d meet two German women at the cave entrance, and not that I needed it, ehem, but strength in numbers, as they say…
We heard it before we saw it. About half way in the hike became a series of balancing acts, jumping from rocks to sticks over pools and mudpits. Hindsight being what it is, my friend began her day with a hilariously poor choice of footwear.
Awful photo once again (It’s me again, Apple!!!), but suddenly we looked up and found ourselves in the beginnings of the bat bedroom. Shortly afterward, the cave narrowed and deeper water made it impassible. All for the best since dirt covered most of our handholds, and…wait...that wasn’t dirt…
Back on Otter Trail, at the base of today’s destination…
The beautifully serene Otter Tail Waterfall, Tsitsikamma National Park.
Back in Cape Town’s Long Street neighborhood, at one of my nicer AirBnB’s (although the balcony was hilariously small), I reveled in the view of the conquered Lion’s Head on the right, but couldn’t shake the feeling of being taunted by Table Mountain, on the left.
Knowing the weather here cannot be trusted, I set out the first chance I got, although I wouldn’t have minded just a little cloud cover on this hot and sunny day.
Like Lion’s Head, the scenic hike to the summit takes anywhere from 90 minutes to 3 hours.
One of the many glorious views from atop Table Mountain.
You hear a lot of people talking about conquering the summit of mountains the world over, but who the hell ever brags about conquering the base? Satisfied with my achievement, I would take the cable car down – after a victory beer at the summit café, of course.
My recent post about my adventures in Malawi would end with my friend Elliott lamenting the fact that he, Lisa, and I would likely never see each other again. A week after leaving Cape Maclear, however, he randomly ran into Lisa aboard a ferry on Lake Malawi. Two weeks after that and he and I were having beers at Jamaica Me Crazy in the Woodstock neighborhood of Cape Town. My backpacking mentor Phillip Hess told me this would happen, but I didn’t believe it at the time.
A random, drunk, and very stoned local decided to join our table and entertain us with stories of coronavirus conspiracy theories. Elliott didn’t even try to keep a straight face.
A great night with new friends Jordan, Danni, Harriett (Elliott’s sister), and Elliott.
‘Til we meet at your and Tidy’s wedding, my friend!
Bruno’s giving me the stinkeye, which usually means it’s time for me to shut up.

Next Stop: India

Malawi Wowie

25: Malawi

“It is foolish and hazardous not to dance in Africa.”

– Dan Eldon

A Legend Is Born.

In Zambia, children wrote songs about me, and Peter Dodd Day was just announced by Youth For Green Environment & Sustainable Development. Both of those things are true, Mom, I swear.

So raise your hand if you’re at all surprised that I would also go on to become a music video dancing sensation in Malawi, followed through the streets of Cape Maclear by throngs of children like some modern day Pied Piper. 

Really? That many? You bastards…

Okay, fine, whatever.

Sure, it’s possible that I was only invited to dance on tape for a little irrhythmic humor. And maybe the kids following me through the village streets only did so because word had gotten out that I just might be packin’ lollipops. But the only fact that really matters right now is that I am forever a legend in both countries, and if I play my cards right, I will never have to pay for dollar Castels in either place ever again. #winning!

My rise to fame came about because I’d gone on a solo hike through Lake Malawi National Park, out to Otter Point, a famously scenic spot for sunsets. The hike took me down dirt roads, past curious baboons, and through dense forest trails, eventually leading me to a rocky, bouldery point, with glass calm waters, blue skies, puffy white clouds, and brightly colored fish that came to me when I slapped the water’s surface. It was like a dream, a paradise within paradise. I sat, completely alone, soaking in the serenity. I’d brought water and snacks and a couple of Castels, planning to call my friend Julia from Germany. We’d met in the Faroe Islands at the beginning of my travels, and she was hesitantly planning her next adventure. I figured that sharing the beauty of the spot I was sitting in at that moment might be just the push she needed.

And that’s when I heard the voices.

No, not those voices.

At first I thought it might be a couple of hikers making their way to the point. But they weren’t hikers, nor tourists. A local man of about twenty-five came first, in shorts and a tee. Then a woman in a red top and a skirt, with a suitcase on her head. Then another woman, a man, a couple of teenagers, a woman with an infant in a chitenge, all carrying bags and suitcases and bundles, none dressed for the woods or a bouldery shoreline. In the end there would be twenty-five in all, my serenity and solitude going from one extreme to an absurd opposite in a matter of minutes.

It turns out they were a choir group from Monkey Bay, here to shoot a music video, and for the next two hours the women, men, and children alike danced to the same song but in different groupings, formations, and costumes, while fishermen rode past, catcalling and dancing and laughing from their boats, while still others stopped by on paddleboards to watch and dance and swim and leap from the rocky tops.

I would spend my time watching and filming and talking to the young man who had led the group, Promise, from Chembe Village. At the end of the two-hour video shoot, Promise turned and said, “They are asking me to ask you to please dance with them.”

“What? Me?” I asked.Are you serious?”

“Yes, they would very much like you to dance.”

At that moment two things popped into my head, the first being a quote by an inspiration of mine, Dan Eldon, who once wrote in his journals, “It is foolish and hazardous not to dance in Africa,” and the second being an earlier regret I had for not dancing with the villagers of Mukuni, in Zambia.

So, of course, I would be honored to dance with the choir from Monkey Bay.

As I climbed down the boulders, my anxiety rising, another man approached, a man I’d seen earlier, joyously cradling and playing with one of the babies when he wasn’t dancing.

“Wait, wait,” he said, as he reached into a bag and pulled out a set of clothes, one of the outfits he’d worn for the shoot. It was a bright red shirt and equally bright blue pants, both soaking wet from the sweat of having danced for hours in the unforgiving Malawi sun.

“Please, put these on,” he said.

Eesh. Y’know what…fuck it, Peter, I thought. You only live once.

I put on the pants and shirt, then tie, cufflinks, and even the shoes he had insisted upon, and took my place between two other men, the entirety of the choir now sitting on the boulders as audience, smiling, phones out.

I can confidently say now that they very likely expected my moves to be more amusing than socks-knocking-off-amazing, but once the music started and the cameras started rolling, well let me tell you that I shocked the entire entertainment world that day. The men would walk away feeling defeated by my moves (I presume), their spots taken by two women who likely believed they were more up to the challenge. They too would succumb, though they played it off quite well, feigning indifference. But I knew. They knew. We all knew. Something magical had just happened.

A couple of days later I would be back at Mgoza Lodge, having a beer and talking with Lisa and Elliott, when Jack, one of our amazing lodge hosts, called to me from the desk. 

“Mistah Petah, can you come for a second?” he asked with a wide grin. 

When I reached the desk, he turned his phone to me.

“Is this you?”

And it was. In all of my dancing glory, my stint as an Otter Point Dancer having gone viral, the fate of my fame forever etched into the history of Chembe Village, of Cape Maclear, of Malawi itself.

I Was. I Am. Forever. Legend.

Watch Now: Peter Dodd, The Dancing God

It hadn’t taken me and Michigan Lisa long to discover that our nightmarish travel adventure just to get to Cape Maclear in the first place had been worth all of the effort. We’d arrived at night, a couple of days before I’d become the darling mzungu son of Chembe. We arrived during the remnant rains and blowing winds of Cyclone Gombe. The dirt road outside Mgoza Lodge had been dark and windy and wet, the indoor reception area dimly lit, with windowless windows and doorless doors open to the dampness blowing in from the shoreline of Lake Malawi, a lake usually flat calm, but that night its waves could be heard crashing just beyond the darkness. 

We dropped our bags on the floor, immediately ordered drinks from our host that evening, Chikku, sat ourselves down on cushioned chairs, looked at each other, and immediately, we knew – our troubles had finally come to an end.

Lisa’s plan was to spend three or four days here before taking a ferry up-lake to Ncharta Bay. Elliott, who we would meet the next day, was to be there a couple nights more. As for me, I figured five nights, tops, and then on to Cape Town, South Africa. Or Mozambique. Or maybe Namibia. I hadn’t figured out the where, but I knew the when. Or at least I thought I had.

The three of us would end up spending the better part of the next 11 nights together at Mgoza Lodge, eating, drinking, hiking, kayaking, adventuring, sometimes just watching the world go by, the young kids swimming in the lake just feet from the front door of our huts, the older kids bathing in it, the women of the village washing clothes and dishes in it, the men setting out to fish in it each morning, returning to dry their catch in the afternoon sun. We showered little, though I did have my clothes washed in the lake, the same water that was pumped to our showers and taps.

Yes, we faced many of the same pressures as in Zambia and Tanzania, each of us being worked over by tourism-starved locals, fake forms for donations for school books or football teams, sales pitches for bracelets, wood carvings, boat tours, hiking tours, handmade clothes – even Malawi ganja and home-baked edibles. And we each had our own sales nemeses in the village, coming home more than once with the look of embarrassed defeat that simply said “Yeah, I caved,” before telling one another what we bought or ordered or gave away. 

Lisa’s nemesis was a legitimately disconcerting guy named QB, a local scam artist who last we heard had fled to Lilongwe while village elders prepared to decide his fate as a resident of Chembe. Elliott had Ben, a beachfront vendor who welcomed him the moment he sat down to coffee each morning, ready to talk about the custom-made Bao board he tried to – and eventually would – convince him to buy. The fact that my nemesis was a roving gang of hoodlums everyone simply referred to as The Lollipop Kids should in no way detract from the intimidation and danger I felt of my own circumstance.

Lisa, for her part, set the scam standard, coming home almost every day with a story of a brazen bait-and-switch to which she’d fallen victim. By the end of our stay, she too had become a legend – both famous and infamous, depending on who you ask. After leaving Cape Maclear, a complete stranger approached her on a ferry one day and thanked her for the viral Instagram warning her friends had forwarded about QB, while a detective would call to lecture her on the seriousness of making “false accusations” about the same. The detective might have begun by playing Bad Cop, but he clearly hadn’t tangled with the likes of Lisa before, and by the end he’d not only apologized profusely, but asked if she thought they could be friends. 

Lisa, of course, said no. 

It was on our second evening that we’d meet the aforementioned Elliott, Elliott Crabbe, a young man from the UK who was also on a solo adventure through Africa, and from whom we would learn terms like “in the bin” – a phrase we all applied to ourselves on more than a few mornings after evenings of too many Castels and cheap tequila – and “Banana Bum Wipe,” which Elliott still insists is a delicious dessert enjoyed by his entire family. It makes me want to meet his parents.

Before coming to Cape Maclear, like us he’d visited Victoria Falls, but from the Zimbabwe side. While there, he volunteered as guest speaker at a school, and also at a center that rehabilitated elephants, gathering food and mucking out their living quarters. These volunteer efforts were entirely unplanned, both the result of a couple pints too many at local pubs, but each was indelible, as is so often the case when the unexpected happens in Africa.

When Elliott showed up at the school on his scheduled volunteer day, for example, he was prepared to share mostly unrehearsed stories of daily life in the City of Bath, his home in the UK. Upon arrival, however, it was discovered the classroom teacher hadn’t shown up for several days, and so, Africa being Africa, Elliott was asked to teach in her absence. 

After protestations which included “I am in no way whatsoever a classroom teacher. I have never done anything like this before in my life, and I am entirely unqualified,” he would go on to teach the children, all alone, with no lesson plan, for more than two weeks. If Christmas break hadn’t come and given him reprieve, he might still be there, likely Principal by now, and we might never have met.

We would meet many others during our 11 nights – doctors and nurses doing volunteer stints across Malawi. A dozen 18-20 year olds from the UK, all here for eight months and assigned to different volunteer experiences, some in health care, some in classrooms, others working with animal rehabilitation. We all drank together at Hiccups Pub, one of the few formal watering holes in town.

Ravn, from Germany, had just completed a group fundraising bike trek across a few African countries. He’d sold his bike, and was taking a little holiday before returning home.

We would meet Jacob, a dreadlocked friend we referred to as “The Rastatalian,” who was visiting Cape Maclear – as best we could tell – in order to roll and smoke as many blunts as humanly possible, then dance around the property barefoot while wearing nothing but chitenges – and he wasn’t even staying at Mgoza.

Malawi and other African nations draw a lot of idealistic youth and adults alike, here to do their part in trying to make a difference in the World. In Lilongwe I would also meet Savannah, a 26-year-old IT Specialist from California by way of Connecticut, here on an environmental studies vacation. And Nina, 20, here from Belgium to do work at Lilongwe Wildlife Centre

But Elliott clicked with us right out of the gate – able to give as well as he got from Lisa – thus making him the logical third member of the The Malawi Three. Together and separately we hiked the National Park, Otter Point, and Missionary Trail. We kayaked and snorkeled – always wary of crocodiles. All of us took at least one motorbike taxi to Monkey Bay. Lisa learned to operate a boat, and she and Elliott mastered the game of Bao, each leaving with a custom-made board. We danced on the rocks, on the beach, and with the kids who gathered each evening to sing on the dirt road out front. We each tried fire poi, taught to us by Liam and his sister, Jade, taking odds on who of us was most likely to be engulfed in flame. Elliott, choosing to try two at once, was the odds-on favorite, Lisa and I promising to push him into the lake should things go horribly awry, though truth be told we probably would have been too busy streaming it on social media, counting on the other to be the one to put him out.

We had tailored clothes made or mended for a pittance, befriended the locals, vendors, restaurant workers and kids, people we met on the roads and in the park, in the lodges and in the bars. We ate, drank, smoked, tried space cakes, and we all bonded with our hosts at the lodge – Chikku, Jack, Jeremiah – each of them becoming friends during our stay, and remaining so after we’d left.

Elliott would meet his “tidy,” Jade, while Lisa would be falsely accused of adultery by the wife of the man she’d accused of stealing money from her. Typical Lisa.

But maybe most amazing part of all was we three travelers, different backgrounds and generations, each with our own tastes, likes, and dislikes, each of us on our own solo journeys, became the most unlikely of friends.

On my last day in Cape Maclear, Elliott and I were having a beer when he suddenly said, “It just occurred to me that none of us will ever see each other again.”

I’ve said goodbye to many wonderful people I’ve met during these past seven months, and I’d be lying if I said that thought hadn’t crossed my mind during some of those earlier goodbyes, goodbyes I’d soften by sharing hopes of crossing paths in future travels. 

But Malawi was different.

I’d also be lying if I said that watching Lisa ride out of Chembe Village on the back of a motorbike earlier that morning, heading for a ferry in Monkey Bay, didn’t leave me suddenly, unexpectedly, verklempt. 

“Don’t be so dramatic,” I found myself saying then to Elliott. “We’re both going to be in your and Tidy’s wedding party,” I said confidently as I turned away to finish my beer, looking down the beach at the fishermen I hoped to see in the distance.

The Tuk Tuk, my and Lisa’s preferred mode of transportation in Lilongwe, before heading for Lake Malawi. We need these on Block island and Newport and in the Vineyard and…
A shanty village in the Old Town section of Lilongwe, where life is a challenge.
Laundry day along the Lilongwe River, where the men were reacting to Lisa’s pokes and barbs, of course. She has this effect on people. Locals. Con Artists. Taxi Drivers. Police. Military. Immigration. She’s special.
A walk through Old Town’s market, where vendors line up selling anything from pants and shirts to belts and shoes and toys and food and…
There are truly so many delicious smelling foods that I simply had to pass on, my American stomach not yet hardened enough to fight off parasitic dysentery (no offense).
While life here seems difficult to the average American, smiles like this were far from rare. There’s a real lesson here about what it takes to be happy, and where happiness can be found.
One of many exceptionally talented carvers in Malawi. Pieces that most tourists assume are mass produced in China and shipped for sale in curio markets are actually beautiful creations by locals like this gentleman, who should be living a life of luxury – or at least have decent fucking shoes.
A master craftsman creating rings and bracelets. Artists like him receive a pittance for pieces that sell in America for an amount that here would provide income for a year.
And yet, notice the smiles?
The volume of passengers and gear in our four hour shuttle ride from Lilongwe to Cape Maclear defied the physics of nature. There would be 15 of us in total – with me sitting on the gear box. The packs and boxes and bags alone could have filled this truck…and yet…
One insane shuttle ride and two taxi scams later and we would arrive at our home away from home. Of course, when we arrived it was dark and windy and raining and lightning and thundering, the effects of Cyclone Gombe leaving their mark on Chembe Village in Cape Maclear.
The Ducks of Mgoza Lodge.
My and Lisa’s dorm hut.
My bed in our hut palace.
Thumbi West Island from the beach of Chembe, right in front of our hut.
The daily ritual from morning to evening – clothes washing, dish washing, bathing, swimming, playing, fishing, and even drinking from the lake, Lake Malawi is the life-blood of Chembe Village.
A dugout fishing canoe of Chembe Village.
Lisa leaving on one of her ill-fated tours. On the bright side, she DID learn how to drive a boat.
A typical afternoon view for me and Elliott as we drank Castels and Carlsberg Specials while Lisa was off being conned by a boat captain or fisherman or carver or tailor or…
All of you parents out there, take note of this ingenious approach to child control at the waterfront – whipping handfuls of sand at the misbehaving miscreants leaves no evidence while temporally blinding your little foes! They of course just laughed, and kept on being miscreants.
More miscreants, with a view of Thumbi West in the distance.
So, seeing this from the lodge, I asked our host, Chikku, what I was looking at – fire on the distant lake shore? Nope, these are swarms of Lake Malawi flies, thousands of them, maybe millions. “Locals will sometimes eat them when they appear,” he said. Unfortunately the winds were not in our favor, as I would have liked to seen that firsthand.
My walk home from Otter Point at dusk.
Sunset from Mphipe Lodge.
Tidy’s brother Liam – an expert at Poi and very nice guy – except when he kept bringing us shots of Malawi vodka. This was at Fat Monkeys, a very cool lodge owned by Liam and Jade’s family.
Yours truly “bravely” poi’ing just one sad flameball – but hey, how many flame balls have YOU poi’d???? Yeah. That’s what I thought.
The walk home from Fat Monkeys with Michigan Lisa.
Kayaking Lake Malawi.
Elliott kayaking around Thumbi West on Lake Malawi. The uninhabited island boasts otters and Fish Eagles and baboons and monkeys and cats (yes, cats) and tons and tons and tons of snakes. While we were there, the military performed survival training exercises, dropping young recruits for three days with no supplies. During the exercises, not even the local fishermen are allowed ashore.
The fish. My lord. We would snorkel here, where we were promised by Liam and Jade there were no crocodiles, “Except for that one I saw last year, but…”
Elliott checking out a rather uncoordinated Fish Eagle.
“What?

He would later fly away, embarrassed but unscathed.
A fishing boat and Fish Eagle in the distance. All fishing here is done by net and handline. The larger boats have crew of a half dozen, working with men in dugout canoes who help set and retrieve the nets. Other fishermen are dropped ashore where they pull nets by hand for hours in the hot sun. When they need to cool off – or quench their thirst – they simply jump into the lake and drink.
Yet another of the hilarious adventures Lisa would go on – this is her heading out with a local fisherman in his dugout canoe, where she would spend several hours with the handliners.
The fishing boats and dugouts work together to enclose the nets and gather the day’s catch.
Jonathan, a fisherman from Chembe Village, shows of the large Chimwi he caught from his dugout.
The day’s catch drying in the afternoon sun.
Drying and cooking and eating all take place at the same time.
Fish sustains Chembe in more ways than one.
Lisa giving me her look of dissatisfaction because when she arrived at Mgata’s for her private daily lunch – I was already there. To be fair, I found it first, so suck it, Detroit.
Elliott and I were walking back from an incredible hike on Missionary Trail when we heard a familiar voice saying hello – it was Lisa, who had spent her day working with master carver, Francis.
On yet another adventure, Lisa shows off her masterpiece. Okay, fine, she mainly sanded this one, but she still gets props.
Lisa’s and my shadow, Andalea.
Andalea by the Big Baobab tree of Chembe.
The children of Chembe accompanying me and Elliott to the edge of the village as we headed for Missionary Trail.
My friend.
Missionary Trail was steep and hot, and we were both “in the bin.” I’d dressed and gone to the main lodge to meet Elliott because Lisa had messaged to say he was ready and waiting for me to hike. He was anything but ready. Lisa had lied and laughed and laughed, but it was still enough to get us going. And she would eventually pay – in tequila.
The panoramic views were well worth the hike through the dense, apparently snake-infested park.
Stunning views from atop Missionary Trail.
I look…what’s the word….MAJESTIC. Yeah, that’s the word.
This guy was apparently not as impressed with me as I was.
Otter Point, moments before my rise to fame.
Otter Point, on the cusp of my legend…
The choir in full dance mode. Watch.
Everyone else sees what I do, right? Pure evil? Right? Hello?
Nice try, but I don’t find this adorable in the least. I don’t. Stop asking me.
Ugh, kids are so awful, ammiright?
Don’t worry, I contacted Stop & Shop so they can sue for trademark infringement.
Liquor Shop? Liquor shop.
“I’ll take 4800 in chicken parts, please.”
Amazing lunch at Mgata’s. I originally stopped here because I was walking to the National Park and heard a young woman singing. I found her behind the restaurant, which had dirt floors, no door, and no sign, sitting on her porch alone, reading a book while singing a local song in Afrikaans. Mgata’s would become a favorite spot for the three of us, sometimes eating together, sometimes stopping in alone, but always delicious.
Well that didn’t take long. Hello, my friend.
This is Popeye, not to be confused with Lazy Eye (later).
Main Street in Chembe.
One of the amazing Baobabs.
Horses? Camels? Motorcycles? Kids being kids.
Goats Being Goats.
Spiderman, Superman, The Hulk, the kids showed off their superhero muscles before striking a pose.
Watching the kids sing and dance, an evening ritual during school break.
A few of the ruthless Lollipop Kids (they still give me shudders).
Andalea behind the lens, catching me and Lazy Eye at morning breakfast.
Seemingly blind with little sense of smell, Lazy Eye would still find me each morning.
One sausage for me, one sausage for him, and the world would be right again.
Photography by Andalea. Attire by Ludvigsen.
The amazing Tipezananso, a privately funded playground where the children of Chembe can learn while they engage in games, puzzles and team activities, all funded by founder Gerrit van Engelen.
Some of the wonderful Tipezananso artwork by the kids of Chembe Village.
Games are just one way of learning. We attended a movie night with well over 50 children. All attendees must have a ticket, a ticket which is granted only to those who have turned in at least one recyclable item to Tipezananso.
Gerrit van Engelen has funded and managed Tipezananso for over 15 years, a labor of love not just for the kids of Chembe, but for the young adults he is mentoring into leadership roles, and the village vendors he supports. He’ll tell you he’s in his 80’s, but he has the energy of the youth around him.
Tipsy Lisa.
Drunk Lisa.
Sunburned Elliott, on his way into the bin.
The Rastatalian doing the things the Rastatalian does.
Go. I never liked you. You’re the worst. Just…just go already.
Watch Lisa Go.